Hello
I dated a guy for 2 years, he cheated on me, I broke up with him. We didnt speak for a year, and then we began speaking and we turned out sort of sex-buddies. We only did it a couple of times, no strings attached, maybe once a month, we didnt keep in touch in between etc.
We started seeing each other in march. On facebook he has the in a relationship status. I told him are you in a relationship? cause if so, I don't want to do this with you. He said he broke up with her long time ago and that he just kept the status because its nobodys business to see when and if he broke up and what hes doing.
Since then, we slept together 2 more times, although he was asking for me to come to his place maybe once a week, but I didnt feel like it.
Yesterday we spoke on facebook, he invited me today to his place. But yesterday night I found out from one of his guy friends that he knew we were sleeping together, although i told him not to tell anyone.
So I wrote him a message on facebook :did you tell X that we're sleeping together? Answer: you should ask him! me:what do you mean? answer:this is not Y(ex boyfriend name) me:then who is it? answer: I'm his girlfriend !!!!
My jaw dropped..
And then we started talking and she asked me is it really true that you slept together? They were together for a year or something, they lived together.
And I said yes..a couple of times. And i sent her the last messge he wrote me on facebook, telling me he wants to see me and all kind of sexual messages.
She was totally surprised, although she said he never let her touch his phone or computer.
I told her that that's what happened to me also and that she deserves better.
The next day he wrote me a message telling me why the hell did you do that? what do you have to earn? and then he asked me when did we sleep together? as if he couldnt remember. Then he called me a liar and started cursing me and so on.. I blocked him and never want to speak to him again. I'm sure he told her that I'm lying and that I'm crazy and that I want him back or something..although he was always the one to message me first and so on.. But from the conversation she can see that he wrote to come to his place and have sex.
My question is..did I do the right thing by telling her or that wasn't my business?
I felt like she has the right to know what kind of a person he is, I suffered when he did that to me(yes, I know I shoulve never sleep with him again, my big mistake) and she seemed a really nice girl..
Thank you!