what a stupid thing to say you dont expect anything from your partner
it is always normal that you have certain issues
i am the male counterpart in my relationship. im rather lazy when it comes to householdy things
but i dont bicker if my wife tells me to get shit done.
you have 3 options
1) deal with it
2) tell him what you feel with your two issues (on seperate occasions possibly) and how you are going to deal with it
3) leave the relationship
you are both working for each other in a relationship
and you have every right to ask him to do things if he doesnt do it on his own.
if he cannot accept this he is (in my humble oppinion) not able to be part of a long term successfull relationship (or he does not want to be)
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.