Tricky love situation HELP!

[silsteel]

I’m in a situation here. I really like this girl and I can’t get over her. I’ve known her for 5 years now and we meet once every week. We’ve been on vacations together, we traveled all over, in other words we know each other pretty well. The thing is I started to like her a lot, and I don’t know if she likes me. She said she had a crush on me a couple years ago, but I don’t know how she feels about me right now and I feel like I missed an opportunity. Sometimes she flirts with me, sometimes she just sits or walks as far from me as possible. She also talks about going out with other guys and such, making me feel uncomfortable. I’m afraid to tell her what I feel since I’m 17 and she is two years younger than me and she might think it’s weird or that I’m a desperate pervert. I don’t want that. It would also be awkward since our families are really good friends. I tried forgetting about her but it didn’t work and after every time I see her I get a wave of depression and feel robbed and I don’t know what to do. I keep thinking about her…

[apiman]

I'm 17 and my situation in my advice thread is fairly similar to this except for the fact that your girl has spent a lot more time with you and is 2 years younger rather than older. If you know her well enough, you'll know if you can express your feelings to her or if she isn't mature yet to handle it. You need to do something about it, however, because it is bothering you and putting you into an unfair state of mind. If I were you I would tell her that you like her. Also, if you've been friends with her for five years, I don't think she'd look at you as a pervert wanting to get some.

[silsteel]

but how do i tell her, wouldn't it be akward since our families are really good friends? what if she says no, then it would be really weird even meeting her again. . .sigh

[apiman]

If you feel depressed whenever you see her, then it's already awkward since both of our families are good friends. If she told you she had a crush on you before, I don't see why you can't tell her you have a crush on her right now. You could try asking her about the crush she used to have then make it apparent that you either also had a crush on her then and still do or you have a crush on her now and it's bothering you.

[silsteel]

but how do you simply tell her. . i'm a pretty shy guy and people complain that they dont get a lot out of me (my ideas, what i like etc.)

[LightOn]

She is 15 you are 17. She more than likely doesn't know what she wants, so a 15 yo is going to flirt with who ever she can.....Why? Because she enjoys the attention. If you get involved with her, she prolly will continue to flirt with other guys wether you like it or not.

Do not try to be what you think she thinks she wants. Because like I said earlier she probably hasn't got a clue what she wants. Attention spans don't last very long at that age, so I highly doubt she has any strong attractions towards you. Flirt with her with the attitude of "Can't touch this!" and remember you are a guy and that is what women go for, the heterosexual ones anyway...LOL. So with that, you got what she wants. You make the call!

Forget about wondering wether she still has a crush on you. If she does, why not make her crush you more? If she doesn't it is not going to hurt to try and get her to have a crush on you again. Don't be a fool and rush in when you are unsure about what she thinks of you. Do it when you don't care what she thinks of you.

[silsteel]

wait are you saying i should act as if i didn't want her?. . . well then tell how exactly do you accomplish that

[Nice Lover Boy]

At 15, that's when a young person get's introduce to teenage life. At 16, they are officially teenagers(sweet 16). But look, tell her something, if you have to be shy about it, be shy about it. Tell her something like, "Umm...remember when ...(pick up a moment)" then say, "I miss those days". Then say something like, "remember when you told me that you had a crush on me"? Then tell her how she feels now. Once both of you talk about it, something will form up. Wether if she denys liking you now, she will hurt later on and you won't even know it. She will miss those 5 years of knowing you personally. You guys have a love story since you know eachother for 5 years since childhood, that's something that I envy from other people cuz I wanted that for myself. Tell her now or before you loose her to a asshole. Trust me kid, I know what I am saying.

[LightOn]

I'm not saying don't act as if you don't want her. I'm saying throw some game on her. Game similar to "You know I used to really believe that you had a crush on me, but now I think you're in love with me!" Laughing it off, and letting her know that your kidding before she gets a chance to question you about it. It will have a hidden message of interest behind it. Give her the chance to figure that out.

That exact comment may get negative remarks resulting in rejection. If you feel hopeless about the situation, then chances are there will be nothing you can do but move on. I'm sure you don't want to be rejected by her, but what kind of guy are you if you wont take that risk? Healing begins after rejection, not before it.

I just wouldn't reccomend the puppy dog talk with her if all her attention is not on you. She hangs out with other guys, thats what girls normally do.

[silsteel]

i seriously dont wanna lose her, especially when i heard that some rich ass from the hamptons wants to hook up with her. how do i tell her quickly without offening her and losing her as a friend.

[apiman]

Again, if she's known you for five years I can't see how she'd be offended if you told her you liked her. I'd take her somewhere private or off to the side one time where you can explain the situation rather than just tell her you like her. Let her understand why you have come to liker her.

[IceQueen]

what I feel since I’m 17 and she is two years younger than me and she might think it’s weird or that I’m a desperate pervert.

Oh My God! What will people THINK!?! A seventeen-year-old asking out a fifteen-year-old! That's UNHEARD of!

Seriously, man. You're both underage, in your teens, and only two years apart. Never heard of sophomores dating juniors? Go for it. Ask her out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[silsteel]

i'm not really concerned with the age...it's the frienship we already have i dont want to lose it but i also want to be closer to her thatn just a friend