how ot reamian friends after a rejection

[enterprise]

i'm shy and i'd be embarrassed if i asked and she rejected me but i want to be somewhat prepared because i'd want to be her friend. shes a nice good person so ya if she were to say no to me then any tips on that :?

[Gigabitch]

Understand that her rejection isn't of your heart and soul. She's not rejecting you as a human being- just as a boyfriend, and there could be a hundred reasons for that (which, by the way, are none of your business, so don't press her about it)

Besides, maybe she won't reject you at all.

[enterprise]

ok well i'm gonna set a time limit for myself and i'm going to within those days spend my waking hours trying to become better friends with her, tlaking more and such. then progress.

[Gigabitch]

Okay, but beware the Friend Zone. Beware.

[Gribble]

Talk and be nice, but don't be afraid to comment on how wonderfully curvaceous her ass is. Otherwise, yeah, welcome to the friend zone.

[enterprise]

Okay, but beware the Friend Zone. Beware.

please elaborate?

[Gigabitch]

If I hang around some guy long enough without anything romantic happening, he seems to become covered by some kind of sexiness shield. Some invisible line is crossed where I will never again think of him as a potential sex partner. He enters The Friend Zone. This also happens with my friend's boyfriends, family members and close friends of my boyfriends, etc.

Admittedly, some people don't have this. Some people have no sense of sexual boundaries whatsoever, I mean, look at all those cousin-lovin' threads we've seen here, but most people do have a Friend Zone, and if you get too chummy, you'll be in it. Forever.

[enterprise]

any tips or things you can tel me that i should avoid, or whats a bad period length to be friends only.

[Gribble]

Make it obvious that you want her. Make her feel sexy. Comment on her appearance. What's she like? She got a good sense of humor? Toss in a few sexual innuendos.

Just don't sit there politely discussing the weather.

[enterprise]

you make it sound so much easier then my mind does
but umm question. with compliments, like what. i mean randomly within the conversation shoul di comment on hey pretty smile, maybe her nice eyes or her hair. maybe even what shes wearing that day but umm when? Liek i suspect randomly going up to her an complimenting her is a bad idea and i'd be way to shy to do that

[Gribble]

See, that's the thing. To do it well it has to come natural. Off the cuff.

When you look at her what comes to your mind? What features stand out? Do you find yourself wanting to gaze longingly into her eyes, crap like that? Does she have a cute little nose? Tell her these things. You'll probably make an ass out of yourself the first time. Maybe the first dozen times, but that's okay. Keep at it and before long talking to the ladies will be second nature.

You don't have to walk up to her and start telling her how hot she is right off the bat. Get involved in a conversation and say something flattering when the opportunity arises.

[vashti]

If she says no, you could always tell her you are gonna keep on asking until she says yes. Of course, you have to be pretty confident to pull that off, and be pretty damn sure she likes you.

[enterprise]

one more thing about compliments. for example how would you phrase something as not to be to strong. like lets say we are talking and we laugh or something and she smiles and i compliment her on that cause it's just wow would i say something like, you have a nice smile or you have a cute smile. or just w/e comes natural?

[Junket]

Well, just be careful about making it awkward.

If she doesn't already know you have a thing for her, and you pull one of those "you're really pretty" compliments, regardless if the feelings are mutual, she might not be expecting it, thus not have your desired response (i.e. awkward silence).

Just try to feel her out, and use your best judgment.

[clynn]

Trust me, girls never mind being told we're pretty!