Hello,
I've been looking at the forums for a while (but never registered till now) and I figure I might as well just tell you my situation to see what you all think...so here it goes...
So yeah... I am a young male...and ever since Jr. High I have had this crush on this particular girl. To be honest my feelings for her are always fluctuating... I think she is really cute, and I admire her personality, style, grace, and everything about her. The only problem is, I do this from afar.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not a shy person, but I am a soft spoken.
But anyway, me and her had a lot of contact during the time I first developed my crush. But now I have lost most of my connections with her. We were good friends in Jr. High, but as High School came, I came in less contact with her. And I am sad to admit it…but now I am in college.
In the younger days me and her use to hang out, but to be honest I never really attempted to get anything going. I did other stuff, like join sports to impress her, and things of that nature but I never went as far as to directly tell her my feelings, or ask her out. She on the other hand sent me many signs, and I read them, but never acted. I guess I was waiting for her to ask me out (foolish of me huh) and I am pretty sure she knew, that I liked her.
So as time went by I found out her interest in me could only go so far. So throughout High School she dated multiple guys. And even had a short relationship with one of my good friends. However, I always had her in my mind regardless. Usually it was in the form of regret, but sometimes I would wish her happiness, and other times I would be blaming her for my sadness… nonetheless whatever I thought it was always about her. She even made appearances in my dreams… (and you know what… I just woke up recently, realizing she made an appearance again in one of my dreams).
Anyway… to sum it up I never did anything to get her to like me, nor did I even tell her my feelings… however, I did muster up some courage and took her to prom… but even then I did not do anything to sweep her off her feet (except dance but you can only go so far) and the night was ruined for me, knowing I did nothing.
So now I am in college and I truly feel I need closure on this sick crush I have on her… I can’t get her out of my mind. I have tried multiple times… trying to convince myself that she is no longer approachable and all I can do is wish her happiness and move on… but whenever I try to forget I just remember, and feel sad about it…
She is a great person, and I guess you just remember great people, but seriously, I don’t need to remember her anymore…
I have tried to like other girls… but nothing really compares to her… I guess she is my first and only love… but I haven’t really done anything to make her like me…
I feel stupid about my own flaws, and how they hinder my attempts at relationship… but the only mistake I made in romance… seems to linger with me and impair my abilities in finding the right person for me.
How can I be this stupid? What should I do?
I don’t know… let me know what you think… any input is appreciated (even the ones that slap my unnecessary wretchedness)