win a girl's heart (destiny or not?)

[timtom]

I met a girl and after 3 times talking to her (we had coffee; another girl was present) I started to like her. I think we have much in common and I would like to date her. I think of her a lot lately. I don't know what she thinks about me. I am 35, she is 31.

My question to you is: Do I (or my next moves) have any influence on whether she will like me (possibly fall in love with me) or not?

For example:
I could ask her out for a walk/drink/to a movie (classical date).
I could approach her as a friend trying to exploit similar interests (hiking, travel...)
I could send her romantic messages, flowers...
I could let her know I like her and then wait for her move (she has my number & email)...

I would apreciate your opinions, especially from experienced (older) people. If you need more details - please tell me.


Cheers,
Tom

[miSSleepy]

My question to you is: Do I (or my next moves) have any influence on whether she will like me (possibly fall in love with me) or not?

If you've talked to her 3 times already, chances are you've made a positive impression, or at least a friendly impression.

For example:
I could ask her out for a walk/drink/to a movie (classical date).
I could approach her as a friend trying to exploit similar interests (hiking, travel...)

Why not both?

I could send her romantic messages, flowers...

no

I could let her know I like her and then wait for her move (she has my number & email)...

You could, if you want to be blunt and to the point.

I would apreciate your opinions, especially from experienced (older) people. If you need more details - please tell me.

what was your impression of HER attitude towards YOU?

[timtom]

If you've talked to her 3 times already, chances are you've made a positive impression, or at least a friendly impression.

I hope so. She and the other girl are friends.

Why not both?

I could try both at once. I guess I don't want other people to join so it might be tricky to organize.

what was your impression of HER attitude towards YOU?

She is not the person who would give any obvious signs, especially because of the circumstances. I really can't tell (you girls can be so good at that). She talked to me, looked at me normally. I think I was not boring to her.

You could, if you want to be blunt and to the point.

I don't quite understand that. I guess you don't recommend that way.

[michzel creativ]

I'll go first to a classical date, and go with the flow. But make sure your not going to loose her. Being attracted to someone at first sight is very exciting. Like from my own experience.