I'm attracted to my Co-Worker...but she is Married.

[Cain]

Are you a mod Cain? I want to be a mod!

No, but I've run message board before and so I know the software that's being used.

[ecojeanne]

No, but I've run message board before and so I know the software that's being used.

maybe thats the secret....maybe you're the one deleting anachronistics posts

[Cain]

maybe thats the secret....maybe you're the one deleting anachronistics posts

Yeah, that's it.

I'm know so much about the software that I can do things that only mods and admins can do without actually having the power.

[lesa]

I think more people should simply try lurking on a forum for a while before just coming in randomly and posting whatever is on their minds. That should give them the sense of the type of advice they are going to get, should they feel they may be too sensitive for it.

I read through the forums pretty carefully when I came here and asked for advice. I got a good idea of the kind of advice people were getting and it all sounded very honest and intelligent. I knew that people weren't going to pat me on the back, but instead give me pretty straight up responses which were what I was seeking.

Yep I was a lurker. If I posted what I initially had questions about, I am sure to have gotten negative responses.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

I remembered when I first came here I read a few posts before asking you guys anything. In my first post ("absence makes the heart grow fonder.....right?") I mentioned that I read you guys' past posts and trusted your advice. I had also said dont be too harsh cuz I read a couple lol but I said to be straight up. I hate when they come on and say they accept any advice and turn around and get mad when any advice is given. I still wuv visiting this site every day.

[Only-virgins]

Deleted. Piss off trolls.

Pussy.

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[IndiReloaded]

There is no way that my post about EAs could have been interpreted as anything other than polite & to the point. This is just an example of someone not really wanting advice, only looking for what he wanted to hear.

Oh well. Some ppl just need to learn the hard way. And when ppl lash out like that from advice on an anonymous forum, its usually a sign that the target *was* hit. Something went in; he just didn't like how it made him feel. Shrug.

[Cain]

There is no way that my post about EAs could have been interpreted as anything other than polite & to the point. This is just an example of someone not really wanting advice, only looking for what he wanted to hear.

Oh well. Some ppl just need to learn the hard way. And when ppl lash out like that from advice on an anonymous forum, its usually a sign that the target *was* hit. Something went in; he just didn't like how it made him feel. Shrug.

It seems like more and more people are doing this now. They aren't coming here for advice. They're coming here in hopes that the majority will be there to reinforce their beliefs. God forbid anyone actually disagree with what the asshole is doing or offer him another perspective.

[Gribble]

It's been that way since I came here.

In fact, I think we're due for some old fart to come in looking for justification to fool around with an underaged girl or vice versa.

[IndiReloaded]

It is my opinion that most ppl already know the answer to their issue before they post. They are simply looking for honest reinforcement. Its especially important for ppl like the OP, who are in denial, to know how the situation looks objectively.

Its not usually pleasant, tho. Hence the tendency for ppl like the OP to 'shoot the messenger'. Was Gribble and some others harsh in their assessment? Mbe, but that doesn't make them any less right. And its not like THEY are the ones chasing after a married woman. Its funny how ppl like the OP want to transfer *their* guilt onto someone completely removed from what is their own problem.

If the OP wants to be treated with kid gloves like a counsellor would, then he should pay the $$$ to be coddled by a professional. Don't come to a free forum, next time.

[shh!]

It was maybe my fault? Young people take a lot of offense at being told that no, they AREN'T mature enough to handle certain situations.

[starbuck]

It was maybe my fault? Young people take a lot of offense at being told that no, they AREN'T mature enough to handle certain situations.

I think he took the most offense to Gribble.

It's sad that he let a little bit of colorful language dissuade him from having what could be a helpful dialogue with people about this.

[IndiReloaded]

It was maybe my fault? Young people take a lot of offense at being told that no, they AREN'T mature enough to handle certain situations.

Ah, who gives a crap about 'guilt'? He needed to hear those things. Forums are caveat emptor. This should be part of the forum introduction: if you don't want brut honest comments, don't post.

[IndiReloaded]

Cain would be a good mod.

So would YOU, Gribble. I think a lot of members would agree.