girlfriend HELP

[dan1988]

long story, - here we go, she had been talking to everyone how much she loved me and she wants to go out with me, she txted one day and said do you like me, i said lets give it a go,, bla bla bla, so been going out with this girl 17yr old, for 2 months, it was really fun all good, seeing eachother everyday almost, texting when we didnt see eachother, but now its gone a bit down hill, i said one day does she want to see me at the weekend and sleep over mine, ( we do this all the weekends i have been with her ), she replyed by text, '' and said, ''i think its best if we dont see eachother everyday, because i want to see my mates, i dont want to upset you, and all this, we can see eachother everyother day instead'', i thought that was reasonable and fair, so that was that, then it started going down hill.

but now i see her once a week, and i told her on bebo i am really paranoid atm, the reason why is because i was cheated on by my last girlfriend, and i am scared it will happen again, told her now much i loved her and how i am paranoid atm, she relpyed '' i will never cheat on you or anyone, i know what it feels like, i love you to bits, your mine.... and all this,
so she said see you tomorrow, i said ok,
so it came the time when she said she was gunna be here, no sign of her, so i txt her and said, are you still coming around? no reply after half an hour i phoned her, he said i will ring you back, ok then, so i waited, half hour later she rang back and said sorry i forgot to ring you, i am at ryans house, he hurt his hand!!!!, so i just said ok then and left it..

this ryan he is her age, but i have been assured by her and her mates that they are just best mates - i do belive that, she has known him for 7 yrs and has been there for her though very hard times, last feb her mum killed herself i really feel so sorry for her that must have been the end of the world for her, thats why she is always there etc,

i have been so paranoid and ripped up inside, i cant take it anymore, i am so emotional atm, its getting me down.

she said bout a party this weekend around her friends house ( laurens) that she wants to go to, so fine i have no problems with that, so she arranged for her to sleep at mine on the friday night, ok, but yesterday she said the party is on friday, so she said can she sleep around my house on saturday instead and spend most of the day on sat with me to make it up, so i said yes again,
one of my mates scott, he knows my girlfriend, but he is a good guy you can speak to, so i said to scott, do you know anything bout this party to night, he said no, she told me she was sleeping around ryans, so she has lyed to me ! THEN SHE WONDERS WHY I AM PARANOID!! i did not say anything to her about me knowing, i wanted to see if she will confess, and she did in a way, she rang me and said i am around ryans, after i txted her where are you!
so i had a plan, maybe she is playing mind games with me to test me, so, i went to ryans, met them in the park , there were 2 other girls with them two, and i played it cool, didnt really speak that much, just done my own thing down there, i am always the one that makes the first move, like hug her first, so she was p**sing around trying to get my attension sort of thing, so i went over to her and she sort of walked the opposite way to her mates again expecting me to follow like i usealy do, so i carried on ingnored it, so me and scott went over by the swings, and she came walking towards me this time!!!!! and said i love you bla bla bla, put hands around her, and sat down with every one else and she was huggin me n stuff i did notice she said one or to things that would have got a responce out of me but i didnt and played it cool and laughed it off, about a hour later, ryan went home for a coat, so rest of us waited down the park for him to come back, she phoned ryan and she put it on loudspeaker, he was talking the normal crap he talks, then he said he was stripped off thinking of her ( my girlfriend ) while i was there, knowing he was on loudspeaker, this really did hurt me inside coz now i know they have been speaking about how paranoid i am, and she knows how i feel at the moment its not fair to treat you boyfriend that you said you loved like that, she knows i am paranoid atm but she dont seem too bothered, because i havent said it to her face how i feel, i dont think she understands just how bad this is hurting atm, i told her that the reason why i am paranoid is that my last GF cheated on me, and i feel she is almost having a laugh and a joke about it, wether she means it or not its not nice, i need reassureance.. not making it worse to see what reaction she will get, thats really sick tbh,

so she slept around ryans last night to have this 'party' she said i will see you tomorrow, it came to 1 oclock today, and i text her are you come around soon, - she didnt reply again and left me for half hour worrying because she said to me she will make it up and be with me all day, she didnt reply again, so i txt her saying, please text back,, then replyed, and she said was at work, and said she told me she was at work, and to take a chillpill !!!!!!!!

she is coming around later, to sleep, but come on guys and girls, is it just me or am i being taken for a compleat f*cking mug, i still love her to bits but i need to talk to her later and tell her how i feel and what she is doing to me, if she loves me then she should feel guilty and support me a bit more,

i really dont want to end it, that my worse fear, do you think have her in a room and talk to her will make any difference
i know she still does love me, but i cant see it, i think i am too good natured guy, and she enjoys the attension???

please what do you think about all this and i at fault or is she,

( that was weekend )

yesterday i txt her saying we will give it a miss this weekend, because you must be getting bord, go and see your mates, enjoy yourself... and i want to make it more fun and special for us next time, get a takeaway, piss about, see your mates at the park, etc, then come to mine and sleep,

she replyed 9HRS LATER and said sorry i was busy and it took her a while to understand the txt ( i think that is bollocks ) and she said she will sleep around next week as agreed

she had a exam all day to day, from 9 till 3, and she hasnt botherd txting me, all it takes is a short txt, dont take long, havnt herd from her yet, 5.40,

tell me where i have gone wrong, i dont think all of it is my fault, she wants time for her mates, i have given her that, and the week end and all nxt week,

please tell me what to do,

Dan

[dan1988]

i am starting to think she is playing me, but i asked her what have i done, she always says nothing, i also said do you want me to change, she said, no i went out with you for who you are, or i wouldnt of,

please i need help, even if i talk to her she will say, you have done nothing wrong,

i really dont get it i am so confused

[Sonrisa]

oh shit, that was long. can you cut it down to 3 sentences?

[Cain]

oh shit, that was long. can you cut it down to 3 sentences?

I can.

"I'm in love with a girl that I haven't known very long."

"She's spending the night at another guy's house."

"I think she's hiding Ryan's dick in her vagina."

[Sonrisa]

hey, i have a hideout for Ryan's dick as well! he sounds like a swell dude!

[doppelgaenger]

Use your common sense, man. This girl isn't worth the effort.

[Rollerderby]

You sound like you're fulfilling this self-fulfilling prophecy thing. You are paranoid, so obviously you're going to try to look for signs that she is dishonest.

Newflash: when people feel like they are under a microscope, it tends to turn them off. It sounds like you started pushing her away with your psycho-ex-babble.

She is probably fleeing from you because she feels a lot of pressure from you to hang out. You sound really insecure. She probably cares about you, but the vibe she is getting is repelling her. You can't control someone, but you're trying real hard, thinking that if you can get her to hang out with you enough, you will feel secure that she isn't cheating on you.

Not everyone is a cheater, but those who aren't will flee if they are being told they are guilty of something that they aren't.

Keep asking her if she's cheating on you, and I bet the relationship is going to end real ****ing fast. It's probably already too late, sucks for you. Get over the baggage.