Maybe on Sunday

[Mish]

I asked a girl I like, to watch a movie with me, she seemed interested, but said "Not today, maybe on Sunday or Monday".

Since a lot of you are self proclaimed mind readers I want you to use your psychic abilities to read that girl's mind through the vast expanses of the internet and tell me exactly what she wants.


Failing that, if you said something like this would you mean a yes, a no or an actual maybe? I ask because I'm not good at reading the signs and this 'maybe' doesn't translate into a lot of interest to me. I'm gonna give her a call on Sunday, but don't want to come off as desperate or pushy. I'm not really in a rush and I'm close to not calling at all to see what happens since we bump into each other often.

[Indignant]

karma is a bitch. maybe that's what you should do with the girl whom you are rejecting.

[Mish]

Yes Indig, karma must have been exactly what happened. I'm pretty sure the God's in charge of the Karmic wheel were waiting for me all this time to almost reject somebody so they could instantly arrange for someone to reject me right back. In fact I can almost hear Ishvara, Shiva and Vishnu laughing it up in heaven and praising you for your wisdom.

[Indignant]

whatever. i am glad you have shown your true self.

[Rollerderby]

LOL

It' probably just means she is busy, and wants to see the movie with you on Sunday or Monday. If she is busy on those days as well, then she is blowing you off.


EDIT: Mish, can we tell how much you like a girl based on your own lack of analytical skillz? She must be a hottie ;-)

[Yggdrasil]

I heard she has to help her mom on Sunday with cleaning and Monday she has to study.

[Mish]

So is that a yes, a no or a maybe?

Should I call her on Sunday or not? That's all I want to know.

[Yggdrasil]

So is that a yes, a no or a maybe?

Should I call her on Sunday or not? That's all I want to know.

I'd call but keep it short and sweet. Something like: hi, it's me, are we still on for the movie? (don't sound needy)

Yes? Great (continue to smalltalk and make futher arrangements. Don't overstay your welcome (don't forget, you don't want to sound needy, but confident.)

No? Ok.. cya. *click*

If you get the answering machine leave one message but don't bother doing anything else. Something like: just wondering if we're still on for the movie.. call me if yes.. you have the number.

Answering machines are the enemy. Your phone is a BB gun, her answering machine is an F16. (not sure if you get the gist here).

[tooxshort]

whatever. i am glad you have shown your true self.

Oh come on, Indig ... He doesn't have to settle for someone just to spare her feelings.

Anyhow, Mish ... It all depends on how she said it. At least she said Sunday or Monday ... she could've said "Maybe another time..." ... but she kept it within days, which I think is a good thing. Normally, I'd just say "This weekend isn't good for me" and hope they forget by next week.

You should've had her call you if she was free on Sunday or Monday ... that way, you'd have an idea of how much she anticipates seeing you.

[Charlie Boy II]

I'd leave it this weekennd and maybe try again next weekend, so you don't look like you're frothing too much. If she says no again, forget about it.

[ecojeanne]

you see the way i look at it is that if she was truly interested she would have said yes and then realised she had something on. she left it in such a way that you don't know and so she hasn't had to reject you outright. if i was interested i would say yes or no and explain why i couldn't and arrange another time. but maybe i'm too straight forward. i dunno

i've moved my clients in my job around for spending time on a date that i didn't want to reject. imo she's not all that into you or as others may think she's playing hard to get? me,i don't do that

[Rollerderby]

Ok but, we are giving Mish advice not to appear to desperate or needy, you have to understand that both sides of the the gender lines take this into consideration. Some girls stick to the rule of, you have plans the day of asking. If that is what she was doing, it's in no indication that she isn't actually interested, but she may not want to come off as a loser by being available the day you ask her, especially if it was a weekend night.

I think it's way too soon to start playing games of not calling the days she said she was available. Call her Sunday and see what she is up to that day or Monday. Have an actual date before you analyze if she is playing you, please.

[lastwish]

Just tell her to call you when she is free. If she is interested, she will contact you.

[Gigabitch]

If she told you Sunday or Monday and you blow her off for another week, you'll drop significantly in her estimation. You'll be re-categorized into the "Not to be taken seriously" zone. That would be fine if you were just a skeezy player, but you're not.

Call her Sunday. If she acts weird, forget about her, but give her a chance not to act weird.

[misombra]

yeah. call her once on sunday and if she doesn't call back then leave her alone.