Need a Female's view

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Any help appreciated guys, so don't hold back!

Ok, so me and my gf have been dating for 2 1/2 years with no real complications. I'm 19 and she's 17, and I've been driving for about a year and a half. Now in that time, I haven't had a job... at all. I've used birthday/ Christmas money and financial aid reimbursement/loan money to pay for everything. I have to pay car payments/insurance, cell phone bill, entertainment/food expenses, etc. as well as Gasoline. I'm a commuter to my college and I have been for a year(it's about 10 miles from me) and over the past 2 summers I have driven my gf to her babysitting job everyday which added up to 40 miles per day. Other than that, I have driven her anywhere she needed to be, or wanted to be for that matter for the past year and a half.

Recently, she got her first car. She used most of the money she earned over the summer and got a loan from her aunt to get one. However, today, she told me she had early dismissal from school at 1:30, but has to be back by 2:30. I suggested to come see me in that time because I only live 7ish minutes away, but she responded with "That's a waste of gas."

So, after a year and a half of driving wherever she needed or wanted to go, she can't even come see me, 7 minutes away. How should I react to this? Should I say that I think it's unfair that after driving her everywhere she won't even drive 10 minutes out of her way?

[LiberatingLove]

Most of the time, these issues are about something else. Sounds like your girlfriend was probably grasping for an excuse. I think you should voice how you feel, and listen closely to her response. I bet she was having a bad day.

I personally have made this remark when I really didn't feel like I had enough time, or If I wanted the person to do something else. As a woman, I've begun to really recognize how difficult it is for us to tell the whole story.

[CocoChanel]

You should have said to her what you said here.
Say, "After a year and a half of being your chauffer with tight funds you're being stingy?"

[girl68]

Yeah, there's more to it than the gas. I'd also feel upset/ not wanted if I got that response.

She is 17... what do you expect though?