Interesting parallel between my situation and Greeks looooooong thread

[LailaK]

I was reading the long ass thread "Decisions, Decisions" written by TheGreek and was prepared to offer my thoughts when this line stopped me:

"Anna is a cool girl and someone I enjoy hanging out with, but not someone I want to pursue a serious relationship with. I’d like to keep it as fun, friends with benefits kind of deal or maybe get in a relationship, as long as it doesn’t get serious. I don’t see myself falling for this girl, but I’m not ready to give her up yet. So, I could pursue it, or just stop now."

Now I'm not offering unsolicited advice, I just want to offer a parallel that I found interesting.

My story:
I've been dating this guy and he's great. I enjoy our dates. He's tall, good-looking, smart, has a good job, makes me laugh, and pays for everything. He's super chivalrous and gets offended when I try to pay. Too bad we have no chemistry. I realized beyond a shadow of a doubt after he kissed me on our last date that I would never have sex with this guy.

Here's the parallel. I haven't broken things off. I know I should, but I love the way he treats me and I love hanging out. I've been single a while and it feels nice to fill my affection and boyfriend need, even if it's with someone I wouldn't have sex with.

Does that sound familiar to anyone else? To me, the situations are identical. Just switch "emotion/monetary perks" for "sex" and you've got Anna's relationship with TheGreek. I like hanging out with the dude I'm dating and having him be my emotional boyfriend but I don't want to have sex with him. TheGreek likes hanging out with Anna and having sex with her but doesn't want anything serious. It's interesting, isn't it. As a woman, guys have tried to make me their "Anna" before and I've always been offended and told them to "f**k off" I don't do FWB. As a guy, The Greek would probably label me a bitch if I moved forward with taking advantage of my guy's gentlemanly behavior, knowing all along that he wasn't ever getting laid. But if both of us acted like jerks would we really be able to be mad at each other?

Even if we "absolved" ourselves of guilt the situations are still parallel:
A) I would tell my guy "I'm not ready for sex with anyone now." (A lie. If the guy of my dreams came into my life tomorrow you'd bet I'd be ready for a physical relationship.) He might say he understood and be my emotional boyfriend in the hopes of someday getting laid.
B) The Greek would tell Anna: "I'm not looking for anything serious right now." (A lie. If the girl of his dreams walked into his life tomorrow he'd be ready for a serious relationship.) Anna might say she understood and would be his FWB in the hopes that someday he'd love her and want to be serious.

In a way, they are both "Friends with Benefits" relationships it's just that the sex situation is more socially acceptable.

Before you grab your pitch forks, I known that using the guy I'm dating as an emotional boyfriend is wrong. I'm ending it for sure. I already tried to end it with him once but it didn't work. I have to be more firm. Also, I haven't given him the opportunity to spend any more money on me since I realized we have no chemistry. I may be dragging my feet, but I'm not a total bitch.

Thoughts on the parallels?