What do you make of this?

[Infern0]

So, quite recently I asked a co-worker if she wanted to start dating, it was a little out of the blue and i expected that she would turn me down out of hand, she is high maintainance and well used to turning people down right away, iv'e seen her do it!

But..... after i asked her, she got quite serious and said "i need to think about it". that confused me a little, then she called her friend to come in for lunch, and it was obvious that they were talking about me.

Then her friend who i have never spoke to starts asking me all these questions.

the next few days she was acting hot and cold, either being quiet or laughing and really friendly, this goes on for a few days.

now usually she is a bit of a gossip, and tells everyone about everything, but she hasn't told anyone at work about me asking her out, i know this because they would tell me if she had.

finally she asks to talk to me and says "i dont think it could work, we should just be friends"


All i want to know, is all hope lost or not?

I have been rejected before, but this is different, it was like she wasn't convinced, she took a long time to come to that conclusion, and didnt seem to be basing it on anything.

I honestly belive she has feelings for me, and is scared of a relationship or something.

if she turned me down flat, i'd know better, but she was acting so strange and seemed really unsure, its just weird


what do you think

[Jas_mine]

Forget her, she sounds rather immature - what's with the inviting a friend over for lunch to discuss your proposal of dating and the whole interrogation process? That's just plain weird!

You said she's high maintenance but she sounds like a bit of a drama-queen too, all you can do is accept her decision and return back to being colleagues, don't waste too much time trying to figure her out, sometimes there just never is a rational explanation for the way some people behave.

[xxazurexx]

Trust me, if she'd had been on cloud nine that you asked her out, she wouldn't have decided to be just mates instead?

Sometimes and if females don't like a guy in 'that ' way, we don't let him know immediatley. We tend to say we will 'think about it' and then think of ways and means, to let him down in a gentle way.
I guess we think it is kinder to do this, than to just reject him to his face straight up.

We offer 'friendship' because we don't want anything else with you.