Should i call him?! Would he want me back?!

[ksg061493]

I'm new to this forum but...

The story between my ex and i is very very very long so i'll tell the end. I'm a senior in high school and i was with a man 3 years older than me for about a year and a half (long time in high school). We shared something so special. He was my best friend and it was so easy to love him. We shared a lot of moments and experiences and made it through a lot together. We made it past way too many bumps in our relationship...but one was a little hard to move past. I'm starting to realize i sort of pushed him away. He started to develop more of a life outside of me in the last few months. and i got insanely jealous. i was constantly nagging and constantly finding things wrong with the relationship. he was never good enough for me even though deep down i knew he was i never showed it. in my eyes he was always doing something wrong. i don't blame him for becoming distant. but backtracking...about a month ago i broke up with him mainly as a game to make him come running back. he didn't. i tried talking to him a few times and still he didn't try to get me back. so i tried playing cool and talking civilized...everything was okay but still inside it was killing me. i made a huge mistake of lying and telling him i liked someone else. this set him off the handle and he was pretty much done after that. i tried telling him i lied and i was sorry but nothing worked. well to make a long story short i broke down one night and tried confessing my love and misery to him and he just shoved me away along with the help of his family. he told me he didn't want to be with me and didn't love me anymore. but is it possible for that to be true so soon? I just want to tell him how sorry i am and everything i did wrong but i don't know if i should dare even talk to him in fear of his reaction after last time. i love him and think about him more than i think about myself. it hurts to wake up every morning and make it through the day. help me please.

[lahnnabell]

This is why age gaps can make relationships difficult. You two were never on the same page. If you were a senior, you were 17 or 18. He was 3 years older, putting him at about 20-21. He's well into college-age at that point. Was he going to school? Working? Young people have a hard time balancing priorities, and more often than not something falls by the wayside. In this case, YOU fell by the wayside. This means that you were no longer important enough. You don't want this guy back. Trust me.

And judging from the games you tried to play, you're quite immature emotionally. Take this as a lesson, and move on. It's going to hurt, but you'll survive.

[Sixpacj]

"about a month ago i broke up with him mainly as a game to make him come running back. he didn't. i tried talking to him a few times and still he didn't try to get me back"

And you came up with that brilliant piece of strategy ...where exactly? You read it somewhere on the interwebz lol ? Some friend told you to do that? Cause I do not think you would be actually that stupid... ;-)

But seriously, what is done is done, chalk it up to experience, and move on. And NEVER do that again...

From a man's point of view, you committed a series of unforgivable crimes and he is never coming back to you. Basically you PLAYED him with malicious intent, expressly TO HURT him... I think you can consider yourself lucky it ended like that and he didn't exact some sort of painful revenge... Although maybe that is coming...

[xxazurexx]

Guess this what happens and when you choose to play games....they can backfire badly and in your face.

I think he's made himself pretty clear that he's done with you and probably recognised how immature you are into the bargain. You pushed him away and when he found other things to do besides having you in his life, dumped him in the hopes he'd be back. Since then you have gone running back, tried to talk, told him you met someone else, then told him you were lying....I'm not surprised he wants nothing more to do with you.

Take it as a lesson learned. You can't expect to treat people the way you want too and then go crawling back when it suits you and expect that everything will be ok. Life doesn't work that way.

[Teddy057]

You deserve what happened with that high school attitude of yours. Sounds like your ex has some good common sense and he's probably pursuing more mature women, because no guy wants to put up with that shit. I made the mistake of giving in to my ex's games once or twice and I will NEVER do that again for any woman. Learn from this and move on.