Earlier this year I spent a few months working closely with a man whom I came to admire and like very much. I'll call him "T." T always spoke highly of me, said he was "a fan" of me and said my work was "beautiful."
Anyway, after we were done working together I ran into T one day by chance and it dawned on me that I had a thing for him. I was in a committed relationship that had been not going well for years, and spent the next couple of months sorting things out. Eventually I split up with my ex, amicably. We remain friends.
When I told T about the breakup, he responded with passionate concern, and began to touch me on the shoulder, knee, etc. when we talked -- he had never done that before. He said he loved talking with me. That I was on his mind and in his heart. Soon after that he invited to a party he was giving. At the party we danced & flirted, he raved about the food I brought & he introduced me to others as the best thing that had happened to him at work -- he even hinted that he'd like to fool around -- but he also said that I "intimdated" him. Well, it got late & I got tired so he walked me to my car and gave me a kiss on the cheek and said "Let's stay in touch." I was disappointed that he didn't try a real kiss or even ask me out... So I asked him to go out biking with me, and he said yes, he'd like to do that when work calmed down for him in a couple of weeks.
I e-mailed T thanking him for inviting me & saying I had a great time. He e-mailed back saying he was glad I came (with four exclamation points).
Since then we've talked on the phone about a concern I had for a family member -- he was so warm and supportive. Anyway, this week was the week when he said he'd be free to get together but here it is Thursday & I haven't heard from him yet. I'm confused and feel like I might be missing something here... why do you think he hasn't stepped over the line yet for a date or a kiss or anything? I want the chance to spend more time with him but I don't want to push him if he needs space/time... but what if he maybe needs more encouragement? Or could something have changed his mind?