Does he just want to be friends?

[Confused92]

A few months ago a new guy started working at the shop where I work, he seemed like a nice guy but I thought no more of it.

We worked together for a few weeks and we became friends. He got promoted at work and became one of the managers so he stopped working with me, except for once a fortnight.

Then one weekend, not long ago, he asked me if I wanted to meet up with him, take him on a tour of our town. He gave me his number so I could text him when I was ready and we met up, had a great day and got very muddy. After that he started texting me almost every evening and chatting to me on facebook whenever I was on-line. I really like him and I told one of my friends who also knows him, she told her boyfriend and he shouted it out in the shop in front of me, him and our boss - I was livid! He text me that night asking if it was okay if we could stay "just friends for now" and I said I was cool with that.

Since then, he's invited me to the pub a few times and texts me all day everyday. He talks about his friends from where he used to live and we have lots in common. After our latest pub trip, he walked me home and I felt like we were going to kiss, but then someone walked along the road where we were and he just said that my mum would be wondering where I had got to and said goodnight. I could've kicked myself for not making a move sooner.

I don't know if he really likes me or if he does just want to be friends. I'm at college during the day and he works full time, most evenings until 10pm. I know he's shy and if we were to date, everyone at work would know within days, news spreads so quickly, but why would that bother him? He is my manager but I wouldn't let it affect our work and our boss knows I like him and she doesn't care. He has invited me around to his house to "get drunk" in a couple of weeks, but because he doesn't have any friends where we live, I don't know if that's how he acts with all of his friends or if he treats me differently, and whether he texts me all of the time because he doesn't have anyone else to talk to.

I really don't know what to think, should I say that we can keep it a secret from work? Is he embarrassed by me? Can anyone shed any light on my situation, Thanks

[KingZ]

I really like him and I told one of my friends who also knows him, she told her boyfriend and he shouted it out in the shop in front of me, him and our boss - I was livid!

I know this is a little off-topic, but god damn! That guy sounds like a total dick. You should destroy him.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Be direct. Tell him what you want, in a matter of fact way, not an emotional way, and if he is not interested in that then ask that he not contact you anymore.

[xxazurexx]

Maybe his boss doesn't want him dating his employees.

Maybe because he has no friends and you have shown friendship, is why he's latched onto you.

Or maybe he's too shy to make a proper move. In which case you will have to take the initiative and smooch his face off next time you two meet

Or if you don't want to risk that, talk to him. Ask him what he thinks of you and how he sees you. I'm sure that with a few drinks down you, you will find the courage