thanks for your suggestions. I agree.
i'm going to write him an email. I realized that I've never told him that I was hurt. I've only suggested things and assumed that he would know that I was hurt. Of course I think in women language it would be obvious, but probably not so for the clueless male.
I doubt it will change much by writing the email, but at least it would get it off my chest. I have cool down a little today and each day I feel I can live without him. The hardest part is to go to places where we once went together.