taking a break, confused about what he wants. HELP PLEASE...

[star_nugget]

i'm 27, he's 28. we've been together for 3 years and i have never had such a wonderful relationship with anyone. all of our fights we talk out and work through. his whole life and dream has been making movies, and now the first one has accelerated to being very popular and it's a shock for all of us involved and who have worked on it. you know how everyone always says stuff like "i just can't have a girlfriend right now with my life the way it is"...? well, he's feeling that hardcore, and wants to take a break. anytime an issue comes up with us he doesn't have the energy or time to work it out with me anymore.

he's totally confused over whether or not he wants to take a break or not, though. here are some of the things he says:

- when i think we're taking a break, it upsets me, and if i think we stay together and things aren't solved, it upsets me.
- i alternate going back and forth between wanting to grab you and run away somewhere new and forget all this, to being completely alone and focusing only on my work
- i wish i could freeze you in ice until everything has settled down, then marry you
- i really needed you to be supportive when the movie blew up, but you became clingy and selfish and made me feel guilty whenever i had to go off and work. i almost feel like the damage has already been done
- i'm confused. i don't know what i want, but i know i need time to think and to focus on the work i need to do right now, and with us having problems i can't do that
- i still want you to be in my life for the rest of my life

he's been extremely good with talking to me about everything and explaining himself, is not cruel or mean, and claims he still loves me. i love him as well, and only wish the best for him, but it's still so HARD. i can tell it's hard for him too. both of us have had problems sleeping & eating, and sometimes he gets so emotional that he starts crying and says he wishes none of this was happening. i almost feel like he's talking himself into doing this because none of his other guy friends working on the movie have gf's, and they are definitely more focused on it and are able to devote all their time to it.

we live together, and at first he wanted to stay at home for a week before going to his friends to do editing work, saying he wasn't ready to be away from me, but his presence has made it so hard for me so i told him it's best he go - and not being around me would probably help him in making a sound decision. i'm trying to look at this positively. i mean, after all, it's not the end of the world, right? still, it f***ing hurts, and it's gonna be painful to not have him around, and to not do little things like send him a text about something funny or exciting that he would get a kick out of.

please, any words, any suggestions, comments, help. i really need it.

[star_nugget]

of course i'll give it to him, i love him and want him to be happy in his life as well, and he needs to figure out if he wants me to be in it.

he just left a little bit ago, gave me a hug, told me he loved me, and that he would be back in a few days. we'll see how these days go. i'm good at keeping myself busy - just not sleeping at night. heh.