Sorry to double but i need advice

[sampyro]

Ok i need to explain the situation thoroughly so this may take a minute or two to read. English is not my first language but ill try my best

A couple of years ago I met a girl who had a boyfriend at the time, eventually I fell in love with her, and she also had huge feelings for me, I was at this time in my life, a wreck. I was badly out of shape, unemployed and also addicted to painkillers, I had lost my motivation in life yet I knew i loved her. She had problems with her relationship, and me and her began to grow very very close. we ended up having what we called an emotional affair because it was more than physical, we grew together very close. Things eventually ended because of arguments and I was not in the right place at this time, I could offer very little except emotion, this was almost enough but not quite, so i left to another city.

Since leaving I pulled my life back together, I am free of prescription painkillers, I have got an amazing job, well paid, I am in the physical shape of my life and am very happy, confident and generally feel "strong" if that makes sense. I had a couple of not serious relationships, but I always thought in my mind that I was meant to be with this girl, and one day I would get my chance.

We kept in touch by phone, text and facebook and talk very often, never really addressing the past though, however her best friend told me that she is not happy with her life and wonders if she lost her "soulmate" when i left. I wanted her to be happy and hoped she might work things out, but it hasn't happened, she is in exactly the same position as before, only I am different now. I was working a couple of weeks ago and to my amazement, my boss pulls me into his office and offers me a transfer to a new office at my old town, to run the business there on a massive salary. I never saw this coming, I take it as a sign, I am meant to go back and put things right.

I am a very different man now, physically I really am different, my body is totally different and I respect myself now, i have ambitions and am loving life, only one thing is missing, her!

I am going to be reappearing after 2 years in the position i needed to be in the first time around.

As a woman, how do you think I proceed, As a man, what would you do? what would YOU like to happen of for a lost soul mate to do if he reappeared in your life when you missed him most? I am so excited, but also it's risky, I have been given this chance and I must not mess it up. I want to take care of her, protect and be there for her, what do i do?

Please help me as this is important, I love and respect and adore this woman,

[DannyH]

All you really need to do is just take it slow, don't linger on the past, and never fall in to any of your old bad habits. Then just see where it goes. Don't treat it like the old relationship but treat it like a new one. Which basically it will be.