Am I gay or straight?

[freecandy]

Look dude, you're 18 and probably a mix of horny, curious, and bombarded with contemporary approval of homos. If anything you're making a null situation worse by getting anxious about it. Go jerk off to some gay porn or something and see how you feel afterwards. And if you're from the United States, you honestly don't have much to worry about. Elsewhere you might get stoned to death.

I have done so... And I always feel kinda disgusted with myself. It seems like a good idea when I'm in the mood but then afterwards I feel really bad. When I jerk off to straight porn I'd never feel that way. Though I do not watch alot of actual gay porn... I mainly just ahem fantasize but it's same disgusted feeling afterwards. When I actually watch porn, it's straight 9 times out of 10.

I hope you're right btw, that I'm just horny and curious. That's what I've been thinking too, that since I'm in my teens this might be normal and that when I become a grown man these thoughts will dissapear. If I was really gay wouldn't I've always known it? A year ago it would never have crossed my mind that I might be gay and into guys.

[Junket]

I have done so... And I always feel kinda disgusted with myself. It seems like a good idea when I'm in the mood but then afterwards I feel really bad. When I jerk off to straight porn I'd never feel that way. Though I do not watch alot of actual gay porn... I mainly just ahem fantasize but it's same disgusted feeling afterwards. When I actually watch porn, it's straight 9 times out of 10.

I hope you're right btw, that I'm just horny and curious. That's what I've been thinking too, that since I'm in my teens this might be normal and that when I become a grown man these thoughts will dissapear. If I was really gay wouldn't I've always known it? A year ago it would never have crossed my mind that I might be gay and into guys.

You're probably watching too much porn. Tone down the porn a few notches, regardless of what it is.

[MaidenMinx]

Most sexual therapists validate the kinsey scale.

According to your scale I am gay, yet I'm happily married in a hetero sexual relationship. I will happily call my mum gay as she is now completely repulsed by the idea of being intimate with a man. Me, I don't even think about women at the moment because I believe in monogamy and thinking about women that way can lead to wanting one. Though I don't see my self ever being in a monogamous relationship with a woman because my preference is men. I would love you to explain how exactly that makes me gay.

(PS. Please don't read any narkiness into this. I'm just looking for an interesting exchange of opinions and thoughts... a debate if you will.. does bi-sexuality exist? MM for the affirmative, DH for the negative... and go! :p )

[MaidenMinx]

I don't want to embrace it. I get more and more depressed every day when I think that I might be gay.

I hope that MaidenMinx is right and that I'm just a 1 or 2 on the Kinsey scale, I could deal with that because that wouldn't be so bad... But if I'm 100% homosexual... Then **** it, I might aswell put a bullet in my head or jump infront of a train.

According to the Kinsley scale you are definitely not completely homosexual because your attraction to males is a recent developement. There is also a more complete grid that asks some questions and will give you a list of numbers relative to past, present and ideal future activity. I edge towards a 3 overall...
[url=http://kleingridonline.com/]kleingridonline.com: The Klein Sexual Orientation Grid[/url]

[Klim]

And please, yes I realise this is very bad...

Wrong. Being gay is not bad, and being straight is not good. Both are just whatever you like.

Theres no need to insult me. I can't help it.

Right. You can't help it. Be gay, be straight, be whatever, but you won't actually know what gender you're attracted to unless you do something about it.

Try starting a relationship with a guy, and if you enjoy it then you're probably the sort of gay that wants relationships. If you don't enjoy it then enter a relationship with a girl, and if you enjoy that then you're probably only bisexual (that word makes people feel better, right?).

Also, try sex with a guy and sex with a girl (not at the same time), and try to think the same way I previously mentioned. See how it goes, based on your enjoyment.

I'd do anything to not feel this way. Believe me I want to be straight.

This part made me sad.

And yes, I didn't quote your entire post because that would've been too long. And the last paragraph was more fun to pick on.

[DannyH]

According to the Kinsley scale you are definitely not completely homosexual because your attraction to males is a recent developement. There is also a more complete grid that asks some questions and will give you a list of numbers relative to past, present and ideal future activity. I edge towards a 3 overall...
[url=http://kleingridonline.com/]kleingridonline.com: The Klein Sexual Orientation Grid[/url]

Actually in this sort of situation where its only in fantasies and with the fact he gets disgusted afterwards tells me right off the bat you aren't gay. Fantasies are exactly just that fantasies. Its more like gender identity type of thing. If you really want to look at it that way. Kinsley scale doesn't cover all things sexual. The mind can be one tricky prick sometimes.

[hello1]

I think you are gay. DO NOT get into a relationship with a girl knowing this, what right do you have to ruin her life? to stop her meeting a man who really loves her and finds her attractive?

SELFISH

[freecandy]

I think you are gay. DO NOT get into a relationship with a girl knowing this, what right do you have to ruin her life? to stop her meeting a man who really loves her and finds her attractive?

SELFISH

In what way would I ruin her life? I'm 100% positive I can love a girl and have romantic feelings for a girl, because I have already kinda felt thay way about a girl. And like I said, if I lowered or completley removed my sex drive then I wouldn't be curious about sex with men anymore either. So what would be so bad about then being with a girl? Sex aren't that important to girls so I don't think it would really matter.

[doppelgaenger]

I'm a guy, almost 18. For the most part I have fantasized about women... until about 6 months ago, when I more and more started to fantasize about guys. I have always just assumed I'm straight since I've thought if you are gay you will know about it early and not this late. Because like I said I used to be mainly attracted to women until recentley.

Thing is I could never imagine myself being in an actual relationship with a guy, it would only be well ahem... sex. I just can't see myself falling in love with a guy. Right now it feels like I can be in a relationship with a woman and love her and enjoy everything except... the sex.

I'm hoping this is just a fase and I will start being only attracted to women again. Could it be? Could this pass? Or do I have to accept that I might be gay forever? Even if I am infact gay... idk, maybe it would still be better to be with a woman? Can this attraction to men go away or atleast be supressed to a lower level? I WANT to... well want women and not men.

And please, yes I realise this is very bad... Theres no need to insult me. I can't help it. I'd do anything to not feel this way. Believe me I want to be straight.

It's possible that you are bisexual, but I think it's pretty common for guys your age to fantasize or be curious about sleeping with men, but most don't pursue these curiosities. It's nothing to be ashamed of, so just relax.

If watching gay porn has become a concern for you, then you should stop watching it. Experiment and see if watching porn has any influence on your behavior or feelings.

[steviej]

Sex aren't that important to girls so I don't think it would really matter.

You have no idea just how wrong you are on that one! Lol!

[DarkHelmet82]

my ex dated a guy who watched transgender porn.. he wasnt completely gay

[DannyH]

my ex dated a guy who watched transgender porn.. he wasnt completely gay

I know your supposed to talk with your so at the time about everything but past dudes porn habits is on another level rofl

[Charlie Boy II]

I have had a few guys I know admit when very drunk/high that they went through a phase in their late teens when they thought they might be gay (but aren't). Just try and relax.

[DarkHelmet82]

I know your supposed to talk with your so at the time about everything but past dudes porn habits is on another level rofl

yeah thats one of the reasons she dumped him.. she was honest about a lot of stuff... but then once we broke up she wasnt honest about ANYTHING.. weird.

[Petit Papillon]

I have had a few guys I know admit when very drunk/high that they went through a phase in their late teens when they thought they might be gay (but aren't). Just try and relax.

You were sleeping with guys? I thought you were all about pussies lol