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Thread: Is there anything to be concerned about when a guy is as straightforward as him?

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    Is there anything to be concerned about when a guy is as straightforward as him?

    Im 18, hes 23.

    Ive known him for about 9 months now, he was interested in me from the beginning but to be really honest, I wasn't too bothered with taking it further with him but over these 9 months i've gotten to know what he's like and we met up again yesterday after a veryyyy long time.
    He invited me over to his house, he introduced me to his mother and sister and then we were just in his bedroom.
    I was on the sofa, he was on the bed and we were talking for about two hours straight.
    There isn't actually a problem but he's so straight forward and upfront about every single thing.
    I can tell he likes to communicate and i'm so glad that he does because I do to, if there's something wrong I like to solve it there and then so that it doesn't get to the point where someone is effected by it later down the line and he seems like he does the same just by the way we were talking to each other.
    His straight forwardness is very different because i'm not experienced, i've never had an official boyfriend but i have been on dates and have gotten to know guys before and they all liked to play silly games and ask disinterested and then show interest again, they'd go by the whole '3 day rule' thing and to be honest, that just doesnt cut it for me, if i like someone, i like them, im not going to let my pride take over and play by some silly unwritten rules.
    He seems pretty genuine by what i can gather, he did make a move on me but only after asking me first. He said that he'd like to kiss me but he's not sure if and ended up kissing me but he was making sure i was okay with it because he knows im not as experienced as him and he knows i've only kissed one guy before and that was over two years ago so he was asking me if it was alright to carry on, his hands were placed on my waist and then he asked me if it was alright if he moved his hand to the side of my thigh to place it on my hip, even though placing a hand on a hip isn't that big of a deal, he was making sure that i was comfortable with what he was doing and he treated me well when i was at his house.
    He said he wants to see me again and im willing to meet up with him again.
    We're very alike, we both hate games, love being blunt and straight forward, we're both random and we like to make jokes, we both have a funny side but can be serious when we have to be.
    The only thing im truly concerned about is that, is there anything i should be concerned about when a guy is as straight forward as him?
    I mean, he was communicative and open about his thoughts and what he wanted to say, but at the same time, he's extremely experience, he told me that in his younger days he did move from girl to girl but obviously he's 23 now and im nearly 19 but i still feel as though hes more grown and obviously more mature so i'm not 100% sure as to what i should think about the situation, seeing as im totally inexperienced would anyone like to help?
    I mean, are there guys out there who are actually this direct, because someone may seem genuine but it could be a silly game they're playing, I can't tell simply because I'm not too good with reading guys, and I'm slow on picking up signals sometimes.

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    The only thing im truly concerned about is that, is there anything i should be concerned about when a guy is as straight forward as him?
    Yes. You can look forward to a long, happy relationship full of good communication and trust. Players are not willing to wait or listen to your feelings. They want to get physical NOW. Sincere guys will listen to your feelings, talk about issues that make you nervous, and wait until you are ready for the next step.

    I'm a guy and I'm like this too. I'm honest and sincere and direct. It does shock girls (they've told me) and it takes some time for them to get used to this. But they really like it when they get used to me. I hate playing games and I dump girls who play games or have poor communication. I also don't date girls that are vague about questions I ask. I say what I feel and am always honest (but I never say they have a big butt or something like that). The other thing odd about me is, I love small breasts. I really do.

    So, with me, if a girl wants a one night stand, she should say that, and I'll decide if I want that. Don't lie to me to spare my feelings. I'm a big boy, I can handle it. Once I have chosen to date someone they usually have good potential, and I want a long-term thing with them.

    So, take some time to get used to this guy, I think you will really like him. Talk to him about anything, and I think he will be open to answering your questions with sincerity.
    Last edited by bulrush; 20-09-11 at 10:07 PM.
    I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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