Help needed regarding Ex

[Newcastle]

Hey guys am really confused and upset at the moment as myself and my girlfriend have broken up, We officially finished in march because i was a dick to her at times (i never cheated) i went through abit of depression and took it out on her. Anyway we finished in march but carried on meeting up on dates, i chosed to go to the U.S.A for the summer which i had planned whilst we where together to go for 2 weeks only, but when we finished decided to do the 12 weeks. Anyway when i was over there we decided to get back together, we where e-mailing and things, but then i got abit bored of e-mailing every day and my g/f was upset about it so we finished again. When i came back she asked for no contact between us for a few weeks so she could see what she wants, id leave it a day or 2 then contact her couldnt help myself i told her how much i loved her and wanted her back and so on, and made her make her decision there and then. She let me go then we speak and she says in the heat of the moment that she wants us to run away togther (alot of things have happend between us and people on her side probably advise her to move on). So we call it a day then i asked for time to get over her she updates her twitter with "sometimes you just miss the good times u had with that person" then a few days later messages me saying "watch this person on xfactor he reminds me of u" so i phne and ask to meet her in a few days for a talk, she agrees then on the day we start txting and shes like "am only meeting upw ith u because u asked, of corse id like to see how you are" then i say "we dont seem able to let each other go" her reply "believe what u want, because i can" So i was hurt by that comment and cancelled the date and asked her not to contact me as i'm finding it hard.

That was on monday so yesterday i was on twitter and tweeted about my holiday today one of her friends b/friend are going thr same place and asked me if i was going (i'd watched the game with this certain person a few times) i said yes, do you want to watch the game on saturday if your about. He replied not sure if ill be over in time and we left it as that. My x knows and i know that his girlfriend whose on holiday with them won't meet up out of respect for my x and she knew that. So abit later that night my x contacts me saying "why are you trying to meet up with *** when you said you hate his g/friend? don't you think this is hard enough as it is? i dont want to know what your getting upto whilst your away" then 10 minutes a later another txt "can you phone me when you get a chance please" i just simply txt'd saying "i was being nice i knew they wouldn't meet up and was only replying to a message".

I can't work out what she wants am thinking of not contacting her for another few weeks then going to see her in the bar where she works, i want her back. Any adivce would be great thanks guys.

[devonbrown]

Here is my advice. Give up on it and find someone else.

We officially finished in march because i was a dick to her at times

You said yourself that you were a dick to her. So man up, realize your mistakes, and don't do the same thing to the next girl you date. Why would she want to get back together with a guy who was a dick to her?

Anyway when i was over there we decided to get back together, we where e-mailing and things, but then i got abit bored of e-mailing every day and my g/f was upset about it so we finished again.

You got "bored" of emailing her. She saw this as you getting bored of her. And justifiably so.

she updates her twitter with "sometimes you just miss the good times u had with that person" then a few days later messages me saying "watch this person on xfactor he reminds me of u"

Tweets and Facebook messages are not examples that she still loves you. They are expressions of momentary thoughts. That is why Twitter and Facebook are evil. You think something and Tweet it out without taking the time to think if you should. Basically, it is a written expression of a thought, but nothing more. Consider those things to be like someone talking in their sleep. Means nothing...

i say "we dont seem able to let each other go" her reply "believe what u want, because i can"

She is now getting pretty blunt to you about not wanting to be with you. So give it up.

As for the thing about her friend's boyfriend, don't worry about that. However, if you knew he wouldn't go and you were asking him anyway, it sounds like you were trying to play a little game there and get a message through to your ex somehow without you contacting her. And if that is the case, she is right to call you on it. However, if this guy is your friend regardless of who his girlfriend is, then your ex is wrong to try to tell you who you should hang out with.

I can't work out what she wants am thinking of not contacting her for another few weeks then going to see her in the bar where she works, i want her back. Any adivce would be great thanks guys.

I think if you do this then you are starting to push the boundaries of what she would be comfortable with. Meaning, you might see a restraining order in your future if you do these type of things.

Let her go. Go no contact. Completely. Delete her from your Facebook and twitter. Delete her phone number. Do other things for yourself that have no connection to her at all. Learn from this one and move on. All relationships end until the one that doesn't. I don't think this is the one that is going to last. Sorry.

[Newcastle]

Thank you for your advice, i agree with i do need to move on and that is exactly what i'm going to do, My x wants us to talk to see how i'm but not to get back with me, she has over the 6 months changed her mind about what she wants. One minute she wants us to be together then the next she wants to be alone, she has asked for space and that is what am going to give her.