Hi Guys! This is a long note, but if you have a few minutes I'd appreciate getting a man's perspective! Thanks!
Earlier this year I met a man in Philly while I was away at a conference. The next couple of times I went there there we got together, and every time we had a blast -- laughing, talking, kissing. The last visit I felt like we started to get close emotionally... we were so tuned in to each other & he's very sweet. I've never had this kind of connection before.
At the end of this last visit, we were smooching in the train station before I left. He talked about getting a room and I told him if/when I slept with him I'd get attached... that I'd need more of an investment to feel safe. His answer was that would be hard b/c I live so far away. I told him it wasn't... then I said I'd be back a few times this fall, and (he already knew this) that I might move there next year for work. Then he walked me to my train, kissed me & said "See you."
Next day he sent me a cute funny text. A couple of days later was his birthday, so I wrote him wishing him a happy. He wrote back saying how much fun he had and that he loves my laugh.
It's been two weeks since then, and we've had no contact. I have tentative plans to go to Philly next week, but since all the dating gurus say I mustn't contact him -- that's up to him, right? -- I haven't let him know yet.
In general between visits he's been in touch off and on, almost aways through the dating site, never calling on the phone. But he did tell me on one of his messages that I'm an inspiration to him, called me his "wonder woman." And he even used the word "girlfriend" once about me when we were joking around.
But he doesn't call, or ask when I'm coming to town next...?
I am meeting other people of course but would love to keep seeing him. But I don't know if I should wait till he feels ready to reach out to me, or if I should let him know I have these plans. If anything is going to grow between us, I want to let it happen without pushing or forcing anything...
Hey, if you got all the way through this post, THANKS! And if you can offer some insight into male behavior, DOUBLE THANKS!