I am dating a man who is 23 and I am 31, I am divorced with 3 kids and he has never been married and has no kids. We both know this is not the ideal situation and neither expected this to last but after 2 years we are very much in love and can even see a future together. Our problem is his mother who hates me, she has sent me emails physically threatening me, she has tried (successfully to a point) to smear my name by calling me names to anyone who will listen and by refusing to acknowledge me as his girlfriend, instead refering to me as just his sex buddy (that's a nice term for what she has actually called me), she has written terrible posts about me on her facebook page and has forbidden me to go to holidays (which aren't even at her house) and threatens to leave as soon as I get there if I were to show up. The rest of the family (including his father who is still married to his mom) adores me and we often are invited to do things with them, they all disagree with her but are scared to say so because they don't want her mad at them. She will still send my boyfriend texts telling him he needs to make sure to brush his teeth and shower before work and wants to be involved in every single aspect of his life. She gets upset when he does things with me and says she feels like he is pulling away from her and apparently doesn't see the connection between her actions and what is happenening. She has known me for a long time and prior to him and I dating she was very nice to me and we even played cards and games together, (I am close with their family and was often at family functions before this happened) and we have the same circle of friends. This is also not the first time she has done this, when her parents got divorced (she was in her early 20's) her father started seeing a woman half his age (they are still together and very happily married now for 17+ years) and she physically attacked the woman, spoke to everyone about how bad of a person she was because she was dating her father who was so much older, basically the same as she is doing to me now. It took her 6 years before she came around and gave her a chance and they became good friends. Please help, I don't know what to do or what my boyfriend needs to do. He has tried talking to her but she will not listen and doesn't care what he says, she will only say that she hates me not because of the age difference but because she assumes I do not want more kids and says she wants grandkids and he should want kids. With Christmas coming up and us wanting to spend the holidays together I need to get something figured out soon, I know he wants to be with his family just like I would too but it would hurt me if he went without me because of her. And on the other side of things I don't want to be the reason he doesn't get to celebrate with them, I know how important family is to him so this is tearing me apart!! Advice please!!!