Confused and startled, require some insight in to this...

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Background: We have been dating for two years, things got bad during certain periods (especially when she is on her period), silly arguments mount up to explosive endings where we eventually get back together. Basically a rollercoaster of emotions for the past two years. Things got tough and she decided to really give it a “break”, I think she got to the point where she was too upset to care anymore and accepted who I am, and decided to move on. I was on my trip to Tokyo while this happened (we had a really bad argument before I took off). During our break, I tried to convince her that I was true and real for her. Then got to the point and realized there was no point anymore if she really didn’t care. So I dropped off some of the stuff I got her while I was in Japan, and wrote her a letter and gave her a nice card. She accepted the gifts, and wrote back that she really liked them and thoroughly surprised by it too. However, she still wanted to be on a break since she wanted time to discover things for herself and for me.

A few days passed, things seem to have gotten better. She’s responding to my messages, we talked and even went on a date. We hugged, and shared some kisses on the cheek. She holds me by my arm (she feels she can only hold my hand if we are officially “together” again). I even carried her up a steep slope of stairs (100 or so), cause I always said I would, to her home. She still lets me give her shoulder rubs (massages cause she has a bad shoulder). I’ve noticed a change in habits, we have given each other more space and lone time, and we aren’t as clingy with each other as before.

Last night, we had another chat, she asked me a few questions:

1). Did you ever think about the possibility of being with other girls?

2). Did you reciprocate their advances?

3). Some other questions…related to other women…

Then I asked her if she has thought of being with other guys, she mentioned there is one guy (law student), then she said she needs somebody there for her to listen, care and be able to put up with her emotions during very difficult times (at times I failed). Thing is she just started school again in dental school, I am working and studying part-time as well with the hope of a job switch. SO I know even though we both said we need more lone time, our circumstances naturally brought forward these conditions. Problem is she mentioned that she would like to see somebody who is able to be there for her more often, for example, somebody at her university.

I’m a little confused but I know and have faith that she still has fairly strong feelings for me, cause she said she cried while reading my letter and from her responses in general, which also really touched me. But I’m getting some mix signals, we promised to see each other when we have free time (even shared our google calenders to help set up days when we are both free) while asking me questions if I ever considered other girls and what I thought of them. And I am kind of worried that after a few weeks of “working things out” that things will fall apart for real this time. I’m doing my best to change for her, and I have been gradually changing over the past two years, just one bad day broke all the trust I built up during the past few months.

Any advice?

[hedgreen]

My answer to my previous post (girl's questions) was an honest one, i said yes but i never thought twice (whcih is true) of their advances.