men jealousy over other guys

[jasmeen20]

I see many topics about females disapproving of their boyfriends/husbands looking at pornography or looking at other girls in general. The basic typical answer that males give to us is "guys are guys, that's what we like to do..we can't help it...we're going to do it anyway so take it or leave it". Because it is so common in this day and age and with such easy access, most guys do, but that doesn't mean it is right, or that we should accept it. I have noticed throughout my years, that guys are just as jealous when it comes to women and pornography or checking out other guys. Sure, some guys might get turned on in the beginning or when it is a strange woman involved, but I know from experience that men do NOT like it when you are in a serious relationship. I had a few magazines a few years old that my EX bf saw put away. He became extremely jealous. One time we were out at a club and I said to a friend "there's a lot of eye candy here tonight". He still throws that back in my face as if that is the worst thing anybody could say. He acted like there was some wrong with me that I had nude pictures of men or that I thought other guys were hot, hot, hot. Men are insecure about their g/f hooking up with their hot friends all the time. Meanwhile, they constantly checked out girls, make comments about attractive girls, read porn. But am I allowed??? Of course not. So, all you men who get jealous when a girlfriend/wife thinks other men are hot, or when we imagine what a nice piece of machinery a certain man might have, my advice to you is "get over it". Women like good looking too. Sometimes I think girls sell themselves short and resort to an ugly man for some "god only knows why" reason. But,I have never met a woman who fantasizes about Carrot Top or the like. And remember, size does count!!

[Snipaa]

If you love who you're with, then you will not find other men/women attractive to the point where you need to discuss it. I don't. If someone's good looking, mental observation made.... and move on. No need to drool....etc. If you're not satisfied by your man, then heck, don't waste your time with him. If you want someone better looking, then be fair and leave! Don't waste your time, or his!

[Illusional]

*slaps jasmeen in the face*

remember that a lot of guys don't like women with an opinion..HOWEVER i like women that are bitches. especially when they have that *****, stern look.

as for me, i could care less what or who my gf thinks about when she's in her fantasy world. i'm not gonna stop looking at porn just because i'm in a relationship and i wouldn't expect the same of her. being that there are too many good looking people in this world, it's only natural that she would turn her head when she sees a good looking guy. all i ask is that she be honest. shit, i would compare myself to her and straight out tell her if i thought he was better looking than me. i know that i would tell her the same, so i would expect the same, in all fairness.

raverboy

[Innova]

As long as either male or female keeps to look, not touch rule, and as long as they're not yelling to their own partner about wanting him/her...then it's fine.

[Illusional]

haha... how many times have i wanted to cross that line, and i have. it's a good thing that their bf's never found out. well with this last case of my coworkers, hey, it wasn't my fault. sometimes it only takes one to tango, and one to watch. haha

raverboy

[jasmeen20]

You guys seem to act all tough and macho now, well, I know from experience that you guys get jealous. I mean, just look at how many fights break out at a club or bar every weekend over women being attracted to hot men, hot friends ect. They make complete asses out of themselves just because women are checking other guys out and in a lot of cases the girls are checking out their bf's hot friend or something.
By the way, I do not agree with either. I do feel that if somebody truly was attracted and cared about who they are with, they will not have such a desire, or hurt the other person. I guess, it boils down to that most people are in shallow relationships. I hope I do find a guy that I can be completely 100% loyal to, but I expect the same in return.

[confusedsoul]

Hey,
I dont think anyone's acting tough...I mean the jealousy thing happens to both men and women, maybe men throw punches in the bar and girls throw tantrums in bed.. I wont say I have never been jealous to the point where I would yell at my partner.. but I would def say we are not jealous all the times.. There have been times in relationship, when I would check out guys with my gf (well for her-fun-sake!).. But yes those are times when ur relationship was as strong as it gets.. Hell I know I am not the greatest looking guy and my gf would be interested in checking out other ppl.. But the emotional bonding makes sure that I dont go crazy over it.. I would say jealousy creeps in more when a guy starts losing the emotional attachment to some "male" friend.. Its just the state of ur relationship that could decide how bad jealousy can get.. But if u have a partner who is jealous from day one, then maybe he/she is just not worth it

[Illusional]

well i'm not saying that i don't get jealous. one of my previous relationships ended because i couldn't trust her with her ex. hrmm... maybe it was a bit a jealousy that lead me to think that, but it takes two to create something good.

as for jealousy, it's only human nature to get jealous. the small things in life make us mad.

also i believe that if you have an open relationship, things will flow. i know of a couple who actually can tell one another what they think about a person they happen to see walking by. they check this person out together because they are both secure in their relationship.

raverboy

[Apache]

I'm a man. And I don't get jealous. The ones that do get jealous.... have very little self confidence in themselves. And that goes for the females too.

Its just looking...get a grip. In fact I can tell you, the more you prevent them from looking, the more they will want to look.

And the females love to play this game. But I learned long ago how to play too. I project this I could care less attitude if you are looking. And the women will wonder what it is that they need to do, and why doesn't he care
that I am looking. Works well...

Life is an illusion.

[jasmeen20]

I'm a man. And I don't get jealous. The ones that do get jealous.... have very little self confidence in themselves. And that goes for the females too.

Its just looking...get a grip. In fact I can tell you, the more you prevent them from looking, the more they will want to look.

And the females love to play this game. But I learned long ago how to play too. I project this I could care less attitude if you are looking. And the women will wonder what it is that they need to do, and why doesn't he care
that I am looking. Works well...

Life is an illusion.

Well, it looks like if you play the game that you don't care, then in actuality, you DO care. I think it's kinda cute when a guy tries to come off as being tough or macho or the like. I think the whole game thing is very immature myself. I think some guys just check out other females just because it makes themselves feel like more of a man. I want somebody who is truly self-confident. I don't play games.

[Apache]

Self-confidence:

Being able to watch your woman (who happens to be quite attractive) walk into a room full of men who immediately notice her, the drooling is soon visible as they try and get her attention. And knowing that the only man she is thinking about is me.

If she is sweet as she speaks to them, it is because she knows that
sugar will get you what you want, sour will not...being a clever businesswoman. But when it comes to love, sex, etc...she only wants me.

I don't play games either...but often the games are brought to me and I am forced to play them. There are many games in life...all of them suck.
I was speaking past tense by the way....and never really cared.

[Apache]

Well, it looks like if you play the game that you don't care, then in actuality, you DO care. I think it's kinda cute when a guy tries to come off as being tough or macho or the like. I think the whole game thing is very immature myself. I think some guys just check out other females just because it makes themselves feel like more of a man. I want somebody who is truly self-confident. I don't play games.

Self-confidence:

Being able to watch your woman (who happens to be quite attractive) walk into a room full of men who immediately notice her, the drooling is soon visible as they try and get her attention. And knowing that the only man she is thinking about is me.

If she is sweet as she speaks to them, it is because she knows that
sugar will get you what you want, sour will not...being a clever businesswoman. But when it comes to love, sex, etc...she only wants me.

I don't play games either...but often the games are brought to me and I am forced to play them. There are many games in life...all of them suck.
I was speaking past tense by the way....and never really cared.

[blue]

jelousy is a strong emotion i feel that some for one reason or another handle their emotions differently. Y can we not think before we react?

[geneviv]

My boyfriend gets jealous too even though he doesn't have any real reason to suspect me. Personally I think that he doubts himself. He has an idea that I can do better and when I interact with other guys it scares him.

[Junket]

Why do we keep getting these know-it-all chicks?

They always come in here, and start ranting on about how they figured it all out.

So people get jealous.

So what?

Do you think as human beings we're supposed to be beyond that kind of emotion?

We're still just as animalistic as we started out.

And I've definitely seen my fair share of crazy wacko jealous chicks.

Which from what I've seen are worse.

Yeah guys will get into some big argument or fight with another dude.

But these chicks man, they're dirty, they spread lies, they smile to your face and stab you in the back.

So basically, you've told us nothing we didn't already know.

Congratulations, you're slower than the rest of our wonderful western society.