Me and my x dated for almost 2 years after she had pursued me and asked me out. It was a pretty rough relationship and ended with her leaving me for another guy. I personally hold no negative feelings for her leaving, but I was bitter over her immediately jumping into a relationship with a guy that I knew was no good. Our old issues consisted mainly of inexperience on both our parts.
He ended up just using her and after only dating him for 2 months, he left her for his x. Apparently he and his x had been off and on for 5 years and of course she was broken over it. Six months go by and me and my x barely ever talked. I ignored her text on my birthday and eventually she just flat out called me and wanted to hang out. She used the excuse of wanting to hang out as just friends but had deeper intentions. She said when I stopped answering the phone she felt something inside and missed me greatly. Needless to say, 3 days of her calling and convincing me I finally said yes to hanging out.
We began talking about old issues and laughing and I eventually told her I couldn't just be friends with her. She said she wanted more yet I had major trust issues since she left me and we sat down and talked about everything. Me and her began seeing each other more and more and eventually started dating again. Five days go by and boom, she gets cold feet and basically tells me she doesn't know if a relationship is good for her right now because being alone appeals to her. I don't get why she even contacted me and began dating me again if she were to flip flop over night like this? It took her a little bit to gain my trust and it just seems like she is toying with me.
Basically she says that she wants a future with me and loves me, yet doesn't know if that is something she wants right now. She says the entire aspect of a relationship compared to her being single isn't that appealing right now. The thing that I don't get is she literally did a 180 over night. She claims she is confused on what she wants but I don't understand how a person even says yes to dating there x again and makes big decisions like that yet flip flops on everything in a single night? I am sure females would have better answers to this. But I am giving her space to think right now. She says there isn't anyone else and that it is just 'her' and wanting to be dependent only on herself without having to deal with a relationship. I do believe she truly cares and all of that, I just think there is something she isn't revealing or telling me since we had the most perfect time together this past week and she cannot even give me a definitive reason as to why her mind changes in a single night.
Any help?