Need an Opinion: Should I leave her? (TL;DR if you must)

[fijc]

Hey guys,

First of all, I am a 21 year old male in college, dating a girl in the grade below (20 years old). I have been dating her since the beginning of October, almost 3 months. The problem is... We've already had more fights in 3 months than I had with my ex-girlfriend in 3 years. Literally.

What I need is just someone to read my side of the story (and I will try to be as unbiased as possible), and tell me if I should keep working with this girl or leave her, or even if the problem is both of us and not just her. Anyways, here are the problems summed in the best way I could:

Problem #1:
She lied to me (1 month into the relationship). She told me that one of my friends asked her to a dance for an organization I'm in (he's in the same organization) when he did not. It was an elaborate lie: she told me that her friends advised her not to even tell me. She said she was going to keep quiet about it because her friends thought I'd be mad. But she said she decided to tell me because she thought it wasn't a big deal. It made me kind of mad that a friend would do that, so I confronted him about it, to which he denied everything. After a week of me being pissed and confused, my girlfriend admits she made the whole thing up because she (for some stupid reason) thought that I wasn't going to ask her.

I realize that she was only doing it because she thought I wasn't going to ask her, but that shows me that she has a pretty low standard of what kind of guy I am. Not a thought had crossed my mind about taking someone else. Needless to say, she intentionally lied to make me jealous (and yes, she's admitted that was the reason she did it--- to make me jealous so I would ask her).

Problem #2:
She sets unfair limits on me and does not expect her to have the same ones. There are so many of these that I don't have time to describe them all, but basically, she will tell me not to do something, but will go on and do the same thing herself. The best example of this I can think of is: She tells me that I can't go out to get drinks with one of my best female friends (I've known her since 1st grade), yet she goes to her guy friends' house in her home town (2 hours from my home town) and drinks with JUST HIM. In HIS home. Until about 3 am. She says that I'm being unfair when I tell her it bothers me that she does this (she has done it about one time for every time she's gone home). Yet I can't go have a drink with my friend.

Problem #3
The arguments...
We argue about literally nothing. NOTHING ARGUMENTS. To sum up how these go about: She will get mad at me for something. I will not completely understand what she's mad at because she CONSTANTLY changes what it is during the argument. This pisses me off, and I sometimes raise my voice (this is the one thing I feel is my fault in the relationship -- not arguing peacefully).. but I feel slightly justified. She gets pissed at me for reasons she constantly changes and calls me an asshole, a shitty boyfriend, a dick head, you get the picture. When I point out loopholes in her logic, her answer is ALWAYS either: "I don't wanna talk about this" or "Then break up with me"

That is literally how every argument has gone down.


TL;DR and an important note: These problems have caused me to not trust her, and relationships are based on trust. I am gradually building her trust, but we still fight because of the lack of it. She told me recently that she can't wait much longer for me to gain it back, but I haven't gained it back. Is she being selfish? Or are the lies/limits not serious enough for me to mistrust her for this long?

I want to leave on what could be an important note: I started dating her in October, yet I only met her in late August. In other words, I knew her a month before we started dating (we had good chemistry and discussed it and we decided we both wanted to see each other and didn't want to see anyone else, so I asked her to be my girlfriend.)

Thanks guys.
FIJC

[Boisdevie]

You've barely begun the relationship and you're already arguing. Don't YOU deserve better than this crap?

[basilandthyme]

Break up with her.