How to maintain privacy with kids?

[lisha]

I am 34 yr old women.We live in one room flat.Yesterday me and my husband were having sex and our 6-year-old daughter suddenly waked up from sleep. We are usually careful enough to have sex only after she sleeps, but last night we were so heated up that we asked her to sleep and started having sex. When i saw her watching i asked my husband to stop.Inspite of stopping, my husband kept on fingering me and said he cant stop.I asked her not to watch us and she laid down. Thereafter we ended up having sex right in front of our daughter. I am not sure if she was sleeping or pretending to be asleep. I tried speaking with her indirectly but she did not pay much attention. What was more shocking was that the other day she asked me what i was doing in night. My husband has not taken this seriously but I am really worried.Infact before also i have seen her getting wrong time and asking for water etc. What should I do?We are not so rich to move in 2 room flat.Also my husband ask for sex almost every night. I don't even know if I can discuss this with my daughter?I dont want her to be affected due to this. Also i dont want to say NO to my husband.What is best for me?

[Ann S]

I'd be worried too! You have to discuss this with your daughter on a 6 yo level. You CAN'T have sex in front of your daughter. Tell your daughter that mommy and daddy have a physical way of showing each other love. Ask her if she has any questions. This is NOT about what is best for YOU! This is about what is best for your 6 yo daughter! Ann

[PradaChanel]

I wouldnt have that convo with her. However, next time you need to stop or make sure she is sleeping or occupied in another room. Was he coming and couldnt stop? You definately dont need to do it again in front of her. Make sure she is sleepng next time. Of course the kids going to stare and its normal for them to wander in your room at night but I would personally make sure they were sleep or occupied.

[lisha]

I wouldnt have that convo with her. However, next time you need to stop or make sure she is sleeping or occupied in another room. Was he coming and couldnt stop? You definately dont need to do it again in front of her. Make sure she is sleepng next time. Of course the kids going to stare and its normal for them to wander in your room at night but I would personally make sure they were sleep or occupied.

I already make her sleep before we get intimate.We don't have other room.We don't want her to watch all this but what i can do if she get up from sleep. He didnt stopped because he was about to come. Definitely i can stop but even that is not good bcoz she asks why i am without clothes?what he is doing on me? i don't like to take those questions. I am worried for her.

[bearz]

You really shouldn't be having sex with your child in the room. That's the only solution besides getting another place to live in.

[lisha]

You really shouldn't be having sex with your child in the room. That's the only solution besides getting another place to live in.

We are trying to get a new flat but it cant be immediate.I believe we will get within 2 yrs time.I have no other option then to stay here till then because the place is too costly.
Is it very difficult not to have sex till we move to new place. I dont think my hubby would agree to this.

[PradaChanel]

No one is telling you to not have sex. Have plenty of it. Whats being said is to make sure your child is asleep next time. Dont be unsure like you was this last time. Wait until she is sleep or busy watching tv or playing.

[basilandthyme]

.....troll......

[Starnique]

Lol...smh..who hasnt heard or caught their parents getting it on? Disgusting.

[surfhb2]

This isnt a big deal....just explain to her in kids terms what sex is.

Just make sure shes asleep next time too

[michelle23]

Can you not have sex on the couch? Bring a blanket out? Or put her bed in the living room? It is wrong to have sex with her in the room-some would even class it as a form of sexual abuse. I am not saying you are a bad parent but your child should not be exposed to you having sex at all. EVER! Its different if she hears by accident from another room-you cant help that but she cant watch you. Even if she is asleep-she could wake up at any time so stop it.

Either have sex somewhere else in the flat or move your childs bed somewhere else until you can afford to move.

[michelle23]

And all her questions do need to be answered in kids terms.

[pcmaster]

Shower is only thing that comes in mind.

[lisha]

Can you not have sex on the couch? Bring a blanket out? Or put her bed in the living room? It is wrong to have sex with her in the room-some would even class it as a form of sexual abuse. I am not saying you are a bad parent but your child should not be exposed to you having sex at all. EVER! Its different if she hears by accident from another room-you cant help that but she cant watch you. Even if she is asleep-she could wake up at any time so stop it.

Either have sex somewhere else in the flat or move your childs bed somewhere else until you can afford to move.

I can have blanket but not sure how much my husband will agree.We have only single room. I cant move her to kitchen or bathroom.Generally my husband goes for work in morning and returns night.I know its not good for my kid. I think it can be a common problem for many people. My entire society mostly single room flat. Don't know how others are managing. Mostly i make sure she is asleep before we get intimate.But many times she wake up at wrong time which worry me. I want better future of my kid, i can stop it till we move to other location. But my husband must agree, he has very different view. I believe its hard for men to resist sex.
Because he almost ask for it everyday. Very rarely he wont do it. Not sure but i will try my best to move to other location.I will also speak with hubby and will try to explain him bcoz he believe she is too small to know all this.

[Alisha]

Shift to other loc. as soon as possible.