She made almost no sound no matter what I did!

[j-white]

I have a new girlfriend and we had sex for the first time last night. I had an erection but I started with my hand first and eventually went down on her. The problem was she wasn't making any sound, Im no god but I usually get a relatively good response during sex.

Her silence made me start panicking that I was no good inevitably my erection died and wouldn't come back. Then every time it became semi-erect I became really aware of it and lost it again.

We had variations of oral and full sex 4 times through the night and morning but her lack of sound made me anxious every time! She said it was okay but I was inconsolable and felt incredibly ashamed!

Now I'm dreading this will be a regular ocurrance.

A major disaster!

[searock]

Did you ask her why she made no sounds - if it meant she wasn't enjoying herself?

Tell her that you would like some feedback during sex, whether good or bad.

[michelle23]

Dude relax. Some girls get embarressed making noise, some are afraid others will hear, some are afraid theyl sound weird.

Just talk to her. Tell her you felt as if you wernt doing a good job as she made no noise which made you panick a little. Just be honest and see what she says. Maybe she felt even more nervous than you.

Communication is key. Dont expect the first time to be perfect or you will likely be disappointed. It can take time in the beginning to click sexually. Dont worry too much about it. She may just b v inexperienced and needs time to get used to you

[horndog]

Means nothing. some are quiet and some make noise. If you are comparing her to the girls you see in porn and the noises they make, big mistake.

[Wakeup]

Were there other tell tell signs like breathing heavier for instance or was she like totally silent? Was she writhing or just laying there like a star fish. Depending on your answer, If she was neither breathing heavier or writhing a little, I'd say she escaped to her happy place until you were finished.

And yes, porn star screaming is an act. (which scares the begeeezus outta my vagina so I wish they'd just stfu, already)

[pcmaster]

I laughted hard man. Sounds like a wierd dream. Better luck next time !

[j-white]

I laughted hard man. Sounds like a wierd dream. Better luck next time !

Well It's a small consolation knowing that my efforts entertained somebody at least

Anyway I wasn't expecting her to scream and talk **** like a pornstar! It's embarrassing to admit but it's a bit like Wakeup suggested, like she was in her happy place!
The sex with the last girl was fantastic and really animal like...or maybe on further evidence she was good at faking
I'm not sure if I should say something now or just see how it goes next time.

My confidence has been destroyed by this! I need to ensure it doesn't get deep in my head and escalate to the point where I can't have sex!

[VincenzoG91]

If all you want is to hear her make some noise, try surprise anal next time. That might put an abrupt end to the sex, but you will definitely get an audible response.

[searock]

it's a bit like Wakeup suggested, like she was in her happy place!

If she wasn't enjoying herself (not even breathing heavily and so on), it isn't necessarily your fault. Maybe she didn't feel comfortable enough to let herself go.

[basilandthyme]

My first boyfriend didn't like me to make noise. I was a newby and didn't know any better, so I stayed quiet.

Second boyfriend asked why I was so quiet. So, I started making noise....and shortly after had my first orgasm. Amazing how holding back can make for bad sex LOL

[Starnique]

If all you want is to hear her make some noise, try surprise anal next time. That might put an abrupt end to the sex, but you will definitely get an audible response.

No! Don't do that. That happened to me but I do make noise so that wasn't the reason. My ex and I were getting it in one night and I mean he was str8 pounding me and I was really into it. I was skeeting and everything and it felt good and to top it off I was feeling right because I had been drinking. He was going in and out. He just pushed in me and it slipped in the wrong hole and I screamed. It was like OMG FUCCCCCK!!!! My body shook. It hurted so bad. He said I'm sorry, i wasn't pay attn. I couldn't even finish doing it and let me tell you I sobered up real fast. Total buzz kill.

Anyway, OP...How was her expression? Was it like eyes rolling, caressing your back and biting the bottom lip, holding you close?

[SqueamishPuppet]

Yeah that sound kinda weired. I have heard of girls not making noise but that would suck. I've only been with one girl, for 3 years though, so I learned a lot about how she liked things. She made a lot of noise especially before orgasm. She was only able to orgasm with a vibrator though. There where a few times I could make her during oral but it had to just right and she had to be very turned on. I loved when she moaned and talked.

Could just be the girl. I wouldn't take it too personally if you have pleasured other girls in the same way. Try asking her what she likes. Communication is good in sex.

[j-white]

Thanks everybody for all of the reassurance, suggestions and only mild mocking

I did mention it and apologise. She told me not to worry, it sometimes happens. She also said lots of nice things about how she feels about me.
She didn't say how she felt on the night though so I'm not going to press her. I'll just try to do better next time I suppose
I guess it was only the first time with her, I'll keep telling myself that!

[michelle23]

Just ask for some feedback next time. let her guide you. It doesn't matter if you found it easy to make a different girl cum. All girls are different. You have to learn each time and you just have to be patient.

Don't let it damage your male ego. I couldn't cum the other night for some reason which is rare for me. It happens to everyone. Just relax and have fun and understand it may take time.

Ask her does she feel comfortable with you. If shes not relaxed-nothing will work. So maybe take the focus off sex for a few days and just enjoy spending time together. Make her feel safe. The next time could be much better

[namemyname]

She sounds like a crappy lay.