The girl I love rejected me

[Steve Wonders]

What do you think I should do...?
Convo incoming.


Me: you're not usually on this time of night. what brings the princess out of her castle at such an early hour?
Girl: just wanting to pay a visit to my knight in shining armor *kisses*
Me: ^_^
Me: the best answer I could be given
Girl: *hugs tiiiiiiiight*
Girl: how are you tonight?
Me: Curious.
Girl: ???
Girl: about what?
Me: Our... relationship
Me: what am I to you? what are we to each other?
Me: .... that sort of thing.
Girl: that's obvious
Girl: best buds
Girl: someone I can always count on
Me: Your knight in shining armor? :P
Girl: something like that yeah
Me: let me ask you another question, if that's okay with you
Me: what did you dream of last night?
Girl: hmm
Girl: i don't remember my dreams very often.....
Girl: i think it involved ice cream though?
Girl: idk
Me: Ah...
Me: I haven't dreamed of ice cream lately... but I've dreamed about something just as sweet.
Me: I... dreamed about us being a couple last night
Me: I have that dream a lot.
Girl: hmm that's strange
Me: It is?
Girl: dreams are so weird rofl
Girl: so hey. what do you think of the royal baby?
Girl: a real cutie huh?
Me: .....
Me: do you really not understand what I'm getting at.
Girl: no. i understand.
Girl: i was just hoping we wouldn't ever have this conversation.
Girl: I don't want to hurt anyone. But I end up hurting people left and right
Me: ....
Me: I've never felt about anyone else the same way that I feel about you.
Girl: same here
Me: Wait... huh?
Me: Then what was all that about not wanting to hurt anyone?
Me: Do you feel the same way?
Girl: every friendship is unique
Girl: so my feelings for you are different for my feelings from every other friend I have
Girl: you are special to me
Girl: just not in the romantic sense
Girl: if that makes any sense
Girl: am I just babbling?
Me: No. You make sense.
Me: I understand you. ... too well.
Me: But I... there's some things that I don't... understand...
Me: That Valentine's Day card you gave me this year.
Me: You wrote "I love you" and drew dozens of hearts.
Me: That made me think you might... feel the same.
Girl: ah
Girl: I debated whether I should lather you with quite that much love lol
Girl: I wasn't being insincere. I do love you. Just not in that way.
Me: but what about that game of Spin the Bottle we played at that party last year?
Me: you spinned, the bottle fell on me, you crawled up to me...
Me: you kissed me. there was so much passion about it.
Me: that was one of my happiest memories. was that... just... a lie?
Girl: There's always passion behind kisses.
Girl: I love kissing
Girl: ... but that doesn't always mean I love the person that I'm kissing.
Me: ....
Me: please give me a bit of hope here.
Me: I've loved you for six years.
Me: Please don't destroy all that in just six minutes.
Me: Even if it's just a lie...
Me: Lie to me.
Me: Tell me that there's a chance your feelings might change.
Girl: there's no 'might' to it.
Girl: My feelings WILL change.
Me: but you seemed so confident earlier in rejecting me...
Girl: with time, my feelings of love for you deepen
Girl: I care for you more and more with each passing day
Girl: That love will never take the form of romance. It will always, always be 'just' friendship.
Girl: but I think that's quite special in itself, right?
Me: Yeah.
Me: Sorry for the late response. I'm kind of dazed.
Me: Have I... ruined things?
Girl: nah
Girl: this is hardly the first time a friend's fallen in love with me
Girl: okay
Girl: tell me what you think of this
Girl: I will never love you the same way that you love me. The only feelings I will ever hold for you are those of friendship.
Girl: but that doesn't mean our relationship can't be special.
Girl: I'm touched that you care about me so much
Girl: if my presence makes you happy, let's spend all the time together we can
Girl: you will be the first person I come to for advice when life's treating me bad
Girl: you will be the friend I talk to more than any other
Girl: if ever you need a place to stay, you can sleep in my bed right next to me and we'll snuggle together
Girl: we can even be roommates if you want, and talk for hours into each and every night
Girl: that way you won't be 'just' a friend
Girl: you'll be the greatest of all friends. the person who knows me better than I know myself.
Girl: deal?
Me: Sure.
Me: I'm sleepy. Good night.

[basilandthyme]

This is hardly the first time a friend has fallen in love with her? She's gotta be as dumb as a box of hammers if she hasn't figured out that being besties with someone of the opposite sex....cuddling, sharing etc etc will end like this. Such a shame she hasn't adjusted her behaviour after this happened previously so that she won't keep hurting guys.

Chicks like this give women a bad name.

Girl: tell me what you think of this
Girl: I will never love you the same way that you love me. The only feelings I will ever hold for you are those of friendship.
Girl: but that doesn't mean our relationship can't be special.
Girl: I'm touched that you care about me so much
Girl: if my presence makes you happy, let's spend all the time together we can
Girl: you will be the first person I come to for advice when life's treating me bad
Girl: you will be the friend I talk to more than any other
Girl: if ever you need a place to stay, you can sleep in my bed right next to me and we'll snuggle together
Girl: we can even be roommates if you want, and talk for hours into each and every night
Girl: that way you won't be 'just' a friend
Girl: you'll be the greatest of all friends. the person who knows me better than I know myself.
Girl: deal?

Yeah, and her next boyfriend will be so happy to have you hanging at her side like this. The woman is delusional.

My advice is to end the friendship. Tell her that you don't want to be 'just a friend' and that you need time and space to get back to normal. The longer you stay around while she treats you as I quoted above, then longer it will take you to get over her. And make sure any future female friends have appropriate boundaries.

Lastly, this ISN'T your fault. She led you on....just as she's apparently done to numerous guys before you.

[IslandScorp]

She's been pretty clear about her feelings for you - that you'll never elevate yourself to boyfriend status. I would move on because I think if you stay she will just end up using you as someone to talk to and flirt with just as long as she hasn't found her Mr. Right. It's extremely selfish of her. Your feelings for her makes her feel good but what about you? You'll keep hoping that this will blossom into something that it won't. Do yourself a favor and cut your ties with her.

[Anonymously_]

That is honestly scary how similar she sounds to a girl that did the same to me, she even acted like I was one of many that was in love with her and she had her pick of guys just like your girl did; they could literally be the same person lol. Basil's advice was excellent ans there's nothing really to add, unfortunately you get girls that are complete sexual attention whores, they use people for it.

[Anonymously_]

I love it how you ended it by the way - "Sure", "I'm sleepy. Good night" after she'd literally told you her plan to lead you on further.

[TablesandChairs]

Perhaps to a guy, she might be confusing. To another girl, she's not. She's extremely transparent.

She's saying the following:

I don't want you in 'that' way - maybe because I'm not attracted to you...but you're so nice to me and you listen to my crap and you support me and I feel safe around you so...I'm going to use that power over you, lead you on, get what I want out of you whilst you never get what you want out of me. I get that you're sexually attracted to me and you want a relationship...but trade that in for 'best buddies' - we can even sleep together and cuddle!

Because yeah, it's totally like two 3 year old's sleeping in the same crib together. Nothing awkward about it at all.

Don't be her pansy. It's demeaning. She's led you on and she knows it. Though it's nice that she's been sort of honest, it's not for your benefit - she's basically just telling you not to have any expectations of her while you're meant to act like a female best friend...only you have a penis and you're in love with her.

So, unless you want to be her special eunuch, it's best to avoid this kind of castration and realize you've been played with. Tell her to get some female friends to cuddle with and send Valentines day cards to.

[horndog]

I just find it amazing that you would actually have that conversation through text messaging and then spend the time to actually post it here word by word. Did you know that you can actually talk to people with phones too? crazy shit eh? Who knew?

[michelle23]

This girl is an attention whore. Reading that made my blood boil. She has strung you along, sent all sorts of mixed signals, made you think there is a chance only to then turn around and say "you are a special friend" rolling my eyes here.

Tell her to go f**k herself. Stupid b**ch. She has known all along you want more than friendship with her and has made a fool of you. She just likes the attention and shes not worth it. Since when do friends give each other valentines cards? Seriously!

If this girl was a nice person she would have told you 6 years ago that there is no hope and that you and she should not be friends as it will only hurt you more in the long run. Yet here you are 6 years later, after wasting all this time on this cunt, not able to fall for someone else coz she keeps you hanging on as her cuddle b**ch.

You have been a fool OP. get this brat out of your life now for good, get over her, heal emotionally and go meet a woman who wants the same things you do. Stop wasting time. Its never gonna happen with this girl. People like you-I could bang your head off a wall to try and knock some sense into you.

Look up co-dependency-you need help

[michelle23]

That is honestly scary how similar she sounds to a girl that did the same to me, she even acted like I was one of many that was in love with her and she had her pick of guys just like your girl did; they could literally be the same person lol. Basil's advice was excellent ans there's nothing really to add, unfortunately you get girls that are complete sexual attention whores, they use people for it.

How long did it take you to suss her bull crap out? Hope it wasn't 6 years like OP. SMH

[horndog]

This girl is an attention whore. Reading that made my blood boil. She has strung you along, sent all sorts of mixed signals, made you think there is a chance only to then turn around and say "you are a special friend" rolling my eyes here.

Tell her to go f**k herself. Stupid b**ch. She has known all along you want more than friendship with her and has made a fool of you. She just likes the attention and shes not worth it. Since when do friends give each other valentines cards? Seriously!

If this girl was a nice person she would have told you 6 years ago that there is no hope and that you and she should not be friends as it will only hurt you more in the long run. Yet here you are 6 years later, after wasting all this time on this cunt, not able to fall for someone else coz she keeps you hanging on as her cuddle b**ch.

You have been a fool OP. get this brat out of your life now for good, get over her, heal emotionally and go meet a woman who wants the same things you do. Stop wasting time. Its never gonna happen with this girl. People like you-I could bang your head off a wall to try and knock some sense into you.

Look up co-dependency-you need help

Michelle, have you fallen off your unicorn again and bumped your head? We have a girl here actually being honest with a guy about how she feels about him and you have a problem with it? geez, you are a loon. So basically in your fantasy world this woman would be damned if she lied about her feeling and now she is damned that she told the truth? Clueless, you are.

Anyway, if you asked me I would have to say the only attention whore in the room is the one you will see if you go look in a mirror.

[michelle23]

Michelle, have you fallen off your unicorn again and bumped your head? We have a girl here actually being honest with a guy about how she feels about him and you have a problem with it? geez, you are a loon. So basically in your fantasy world this woman would be damned if she lied about her feeling and now she is damned that she told the truth? Clueless, you are.

Anyway, if you asked me I would have to say the only attention whore in the room is the one you will see if you go look in a mirror.

Are you really a grown, married man with teenage children. It is hard to believe coz your so damn immature...

Anyway, she has led him on for 6 years. That is why she is an attention whore, not because she finally told him now that there is no chance. She should have told him that 6 years ago.

And LOL, You are the one with multiple user names. "Am I crazy" its kinda obvious now that its you.

I'll add if Im a loon, then so is everyone else in this thread who shares the same view: 5/6 people who have replied so far

[horndog]

LOL, that's funny. Sure, I may be a little crazy, but "Am I crazy"? nope.

[michelle23]

sure.........

[horndog]

I'll add if Im a loon, then so is everyone else in this thread who shares the same view: 5/6 people who have replied so far

Oh my! then it must be so. I bet if you ask 5/6 guys in prison if they are innocent you will get the same results! Anyway, I never said anybody was wrong. I was only commenting on your tenacious over the top (as usual) response. But take it as you want. I gotta go to work. have a great day!, and don't forget to feed your unicorn. Even in fantasyland the animals have to eat, so I hear.

[michelle23]

Oh my! then it must be so. I bet if you ask 5/6 guys in prison if they are innocent you will get the same results! Anyway, I never said anybody was wrong. I was only commenting on your tenacious over the top (as usual) response. But take it as you want. I gotta go to work. have a great day!, and don't forget to feed your unicorn. Even in fantasyland the animals have to eat, so I hear.

your pathetic. My sister who's 12 has more maturity than you. If you ever fall off that pedestal of yours, its gonna hurt. Go play your childish games with someone else. I'm not interested. And my reaction was warranted. He has wasted 6 YEARS on this girl who played him like a fiddle. If you cant see that then you need to get your head checked.