Hello all,
I'm a 33 year old female, and could use advice with my situation. I posted once before about an issue regarding the same man. I've been in many bad relationships, and am beginning to pick up on some red flags that have me feeling that things will not improve. Here are just a few of my issues
He told me he doesn't believe in monogamy, although he assures me he will never cheat, he refuses to discuss it further. I feel that this is a topic a couple should discuss and agree on, and I'm having trouble believing, or trusting, that he will stay faithful.
He pressures me for things I don't want to do. At the beginning of our relationship, he told me that he wanted me to have anal sex with him, I told him it was something I don't like doing. I even asked him before our relationship progressed, if it was something that would cause problems down the road. He said no, and that he'd "rather a good woman" than someone willing to do everything he wants. This topic has come up several times, even though he knows I don't want to do it. I told him I was willing to play along with the fantasy, and he was ok with that. But now he tells me he wants me to say I will consider it, even though I wouldn't. We had a very lengthy argument the other night, and he just won't empathize with my position, and I have told him exactly why I don't want to do that. He told me he doesn't agree with my reasons. I feel like he doesn't respect me one bit, and that I'm more like an object to him. I've been in controlling relationships, as well as have been cheated on several times. I feel like things will not get better. He refuses to talk to me about anything. We live a couple of towns away, and only see each other once a week, sometimes less. Am I right to want to break up with him? I would be willing to sort things out with him, if anyone thinks a break up isn't necessary. I do care about him, but I'm really not happy with the way it is going. Thank you for your help.