I have been in a 7 /8year relationship who i met when my youngest was 8months old.(i have three children) hes never wanted kids of his own which isn't really a problem. He got made redundant 3/4 years ago and a year ago his mum died so i know hes had some pressure. since being made redundant he has just played pc all night and is in bed all day he moans all the time and i feel id rather not discuss things with him ie decorating/the kids/ as i never get any support just negativitybecause i do everything wrong.
the only time he seems to take an interest in the kids is when they do something wrong for instance he said to my teen daughter to bring a bowl down from her room. like this: " you need to bring your bowl down from your room, i told you last night to bring it down when your finished you wont be allowed to have anything again if you cant do a simple thing your not supposed to eat up there anyway so bring it down now" in a really condescending voice which pees me off never mind my daughter, and he just goes on and on. every time they do something wrong he always tells and never asks them to do anything.
the other night my daughter and friend (who my partner said shouldnt sleep cos they always get into trouble together) came in early as all their friends were drinking we have had problems with my teen so this was a real step forward i was so proud of her i treated them to loads of treats and they watched a movie all he said was yh its good and barely looked up from his computer
He has always been a negative person but since i have been diagnosed with depression its dragging me down and sometimes i hate him..most days i don't even want him to get up cos then we will have to talk.
yesterday was my birthday and i was making some flat pack furniture (something i love doing) and he got up and started moaning about how he thought it was going to be different and now my son wont have any space in his room essentially turning something i was enjoying into a chore and thats the effect he has on everything. he does nothing which he denies but i still have three children to look after ive started an avon round i take an interest in healthy eating (cook from scratch) its too much for me i know my job wont change wether hes here or not but just to not have the constant moaning/questioning of what im doing im a grown woman i dont know it all but i can make educated decisions and i dont see why he needs to understand everything i do
I wanted a Partner a Friend a Lover i didn't want a father