Hi guys im sarah, i guess i came here looking for a little outside perspective.
Basically im in an unhealthy relationship...i think. I feel like im drowning in it. Part of me thinks im over reacting so before i go crazy i need to know if its all in my head.
Ive been with my bf for 2 and a half years. basically we lived in the same house which is split into 2 apartments. We got together one night randomly, he said he was single, turns out he had an on again off again gf anyway it turned out he was cheating on me for a few months with her behind my back and she told me one night. In the end he talked me into getting back together and i kinda regret being so naive. Through out this part of our relatonship he never liked me wearing make up or dressing nice. i was doing a full time course in a different town, hed constantly think i was cheating on him hed scream down the phone. i quit the course to end all arguments.
by no means planned we fell pregnant. throught out pregnancy we got on great. mainly cause i didnt go anywhere or talk to anyone. he never liked me going out with my friends as rare as it was that i ever did. after she was born, i felt like trying to find who i was again. failed. im not allowed out drinking without him. if i do im told there will be a holy war of an argument. when i wear make up i get grief. theres so many things hes said and done that i cant remember mayb at the time they seem insignificant.
i dont feel like i can leave cause he will take our daughter. i know i have custody but he wouldnt let me leave with her. if i took her id feel afraid of what he would do. only yesterday my car broke down at a junction i rang him to tell him, at the same time 2 construction me who were working ner there helped me push the car out of the way (thank god) during this i said hey ill ring u back in a few mins. i rang him when i was in a safe zone and the 2nd thing out of his mouth is 'i cant believe u let another man in the car'. seriously.
i just feel so stuck in a rut. i dont want to be here anymore. it seems so simple to say just leave him. but if i do he wants our daughter 50% of the time. i dont want her spending 50% of her life being told she cant wear/do things that girls her own age do.
only the other week i said to him i wanted to get the little one tights dress and cardigan to wear for xmas day and this lead to me being told i dress her slutty. i simply cannot win with this man.
please help me