Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
But if you try sometimes.... You just might find.... You get what you need. ;-)
Seriously, though, back to Jojo...
It sounds like she may just consider you a friend. Then again, it could very well be exactly what she said (to her friend, I think you said). It could just be that she is not yet over the situation with her ex. That is entirely possible. How long ago did they break up?
I mean, it does sound like she probably more so thinks of you just as a friend, but it could literally be that she just doesn't want to start anything with anybody until she feels ready. If that is actually the case, then maybe you'd have a chance down the road, but she just didn't want to risk starting something with you before she was ready and possibly losing you altogether.
I think my advice would be to sort of consider her, in your own mind, as just a friend for now. If you can do that, that is. Go about things the way you normally would with her, and meanwhile keep your dating options open, and date other women if/when possible. In other words, don't wait around for her, but if you can see staying friends for the time being, then don't break contact with her completely. You never know. Maybe down the road she actually will get over her ex and maybe even be interested in dating you. You just don't want to get stuck waiting around just hoping that will happen, or you may be missing out on a lot of chances to meet someone great by waiting for somebody unavailable.
If you don't think you can be just friends, then right now your best bet would be to keep your distance. Because she has made it clear she is not ready for a relationship right now. So, if you think it would hurt too much to be around her without being with her, or it might be too difficult not to try to go for it anyway, then it is probably best to keep your distance. Either way, good luck.