Is it finally over?

[shestandsalone]

Hello Im New to this site and could need some male advise.

Final and and last break up on my part. After a year and a half... I break up with him. then he breaks up with me. He always comes back... This time he feels like he made the final call. Yet ive been done for months. He shows up unannounced after i blocked his number. Basically after every thing ive gone through now he wants to respect me? sit down and talk? let me have my word? when he shows up. ive just come back from a run in the morning. getting out of the shower. and hes in my door way. Yes; Im naked!!! I scream surprised. He states i left you several messages and text you very upset and you don't respond? My answer I blocked Your number.. which i did after the previous nights of fighting with him, Over and over again. He Got extremely upset. we sit down and talk. Based on his anger with me blocking his number he starts acting like a dick. after a while of putting up with it. I let him know that im finally done. I explain that the reason we will never be together is because he was too lazy. too lazy to listen to what i needed; Im Not one of those kind of girls that when you ask whats wrong i say nothing. I tell you exactly whats wrong and what i wont put up with. at that moment. I saw a switch in his face. Not because he was gonna change, But once again he had gotten under my skin which showed him that i loved him.

Mind You a few months back he told me he was in love with me, in a drunken stupor. Then a month later on our one year anniversary stood me up. which let to another break up.

At the end of this break up. I seriously felt like im done. Yet looking at him it was like he had a huge sign on his fore head that said. Oh crap i really messed up this time yet how can i get her from the couch to the bedroom? Once i realized that i had to kick him out of my house.

My friends all say that in about a month he will call again. My question to men out there. If i do How do i put my foot down to what i expect in this relationship this time around where he will actually start doing shit right as apposed to half ass?

[Kromat83]

QUOTE "My friends all say that in about a month he will call again. My question to men out there. If i do How do i put my foot down to what i expect in this relationship this time around where he will actually start doing shit right as apposed to half ass?"

I would let him be alone for a while, that is the only way he'll learn.
If it means ending it completely with you, then even better for him to realize what he did and needs to improve on.
You already took him back once and it's still the same, what makes you think he'll change ?
You can't change him, he has to do that on his own and maybe apply it to a new girl.
P.S. I know you still might have feelings for him even though your frustrated, but waiting for him will make you miss opportunities that you find more deserving of your attention.
Be alone and enjoy life with friends and family.

[bekho]

Yea there has to be standards which are upheld. Once you let standards slip for the sake of comfort ... All respect comes crumbling down.

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[michelle23]

He is who he is. You can't change anyone. You either love drama or have seriously low self esteem to put up with this for so long. If you love drama-then stick with it coz you will get lots from him. However if its due to low self esteem then you need to work on you so you never allow someone to walk all over you again and stop dishing out chances to men who don't deserve them.