Theory on Male Attractiveness

[Airborne]

Well this thread is for all you men out there who are wondering what exactly it is that makes woman go for men, and to all the ladies out there you are more than welcome to scrutinise this thread, and make alterations. Well this is what makes men attractive to woman from my perspective and past experiences.

It seems to me that attraction seems to be increased with male with lack of availability, alot of guys give it their all to try to be with certain beautiful woman, and as a result come across as wanting to be with them. This is in my opinion a turn off because very few people seem to want what is readily available to them.

If men take a somewhat cocky attitude and act as if the woman they are with are out of their league, and do not show and sort of attraction to them, does this increase a woman's desire for that man? I think that it does because it tells a woman three things:

1. That you are dominant and in control.
2. That she would have to compete for your attention.
3. That unlike alot of other guys you do not want to be with her, you are a challenge.

It is this lack of want for the woman you are with that acts as a turn on because quite plainly and simply we all want what we cannot have.

This would explain why alot of woman tend to go out with alot of men whom the "nice guys" consider to be jerks. Because these jerks do not seem to care whether they are with or without this woman, unlike the "nice guys" who would bend over backwards for them.

Feedback is most appreciated!

[bluesummer]

I disagree, on my own behalf, because there is no bigger turn off for me than a guy who acts like he thinks he's 'out of my league', whatever that is. As far as I'm concerned, if he has that attitude, he's out of MINE.

I don't want to have to compete, I want him to think I'm the greatest girl he's ever going to be with and I want him to treat me like a queen. But hey, maybe that's just me.

[Junket]

Well this thread is for all you men out there who are wondering what exactly it is that makes woman go for men, and to all the ladies out there you are more than welcome to scrutinise this thread, and make alterations. Well this is what makes men attractive to woman from my perspective and past experiences.

It seems to me that attraction seems to be increased with male with lack of availability, alot of guys give it their all to try to be with certain beautiful woman, and as a result come across as wanting to be with them. This is in my opinion a turn off because very few people seem to want what is readily available to them.

If men take a somewhat cocky attitude and act as if the woman they are with are out of their league, and do not show and sort of attraction to them, does this increase a woman's desire for that man? I think that it does because it tells a woman three things:

1. That you are dominant and in control.
2. That she would have to compete for your attention.
3. That unlike alot of other guys you do not want to be with her, you are a challenge.

It is this lack of want for the woman you are with that acts as a turn on because quite plainly and simply we all want what we cannot have.

This would explain why alot of woman tend to go out with alot of men whom the "nice guys" consider to be jerks. Because these jerks do not seem to care whether they are with or without this woman, unlike the "nice guys" who would bend over backwards for them.

Feedback is most appreciated!

It's nothin' I haven't heard before, so it's not original.

But I will give you points for posting something still not everybody knows.

[Junket]

I want him to think I'm the greatest girl he's ever going to be with and I want him to treat me like a queen. But hey, maybe that's just me.

Sorry summer but, it's probably just you.

If it wasn't, then all those sad and lonely guys would probably be happily married.

[Only-virgins]

Stupid ass theory. No awards for you. Believe it or not ...girls are people too. They differ in want and what they need and are looking for. If all you see is hot girls with dumb guys and have to make up a theory like this then..are you sure your not just talking about the stupid blondes( some brunettes can count too).

[bluesummer]

Sorry summer but, it's probably just you.

If it wasn't, then all those sad and lonely guys would probably be happily married.

Yikes. Is that a bad thing? Me not wanting cocky egotistic guys?

[Ellynn]

I disagree, on my own behalf, because there is no bigger turn off for me than a guy who acts like he thinks he's 'out of my league', whatever that is. As far as I'm concerned, if he has that attitude, he's out of MINE.

I don't want to have to compete, I want him to think I'm the greatest girl he's ever going to be with and I want him to treat me like a queen. But hey, maybe that's just me.

I agree completely. I hate cocky guys..... I want a guy who is sincere and nice.....but I have to find him attractive as well.....sigh....thats the hard part.

[Innova]

Yikes. Is that a bad thing? Me not wanting cocky egotistic guys?

Not at all, just more like yourself. Looks and real "Down to earth" personality to boot lol.

[Airborne]

I don't want to have to compete, I want him to think I'm the greatest girl he's ever going to be with and I want him to treat me like a queen. But hey, maybe that's just me.

Yea I think you may well be an exception, you see when ever guys do treat girls like a queen it never gets them anywhere. "Nice guys" never tend to go out with anyone but cling onto the one whom they want to be with and stay as good friends while the person they want to be with goes out with guys whom they consider to be jerks.

I am not saying girls go for guys who are completely cocky and egotistical, but alot of woman may well want to go out with guys who are to a certain extent because it shows them that the guy is in control and is confident in himself. Though if it is OTT then yea it is a major turn off.

Believe it or not ...girls are people too. They differ in want and what they need and are looking for. If all you see is hot girls with dumb guys and have to make up a theory like this then..are you sure your not just talking about the stupid blondes( some brunettes can count too).

I am talking about just a general trend here that I have experienced, no need to get angry about it. Besides I am talking about in general people do not take what is readily available to them, whether the girl is good looking or not it is very unlikely that they will simply go out with the guy who treats her as if she is a queen. Bare in mind that I am 16 and have far less knowledge of relationships than you do, and the girls I am dealing with have far less experience aswell so as a result they may see a "nice guy" as simply being desperate. I apologise if my post offended you.

[Ellynn]

I also find there are lots of nice guys who are hung up on the girls that treat them like crap......sigh...

[shh!]

Airborne is obviously male. No woman would buy into/write this theory. It is far too simplistic. And just for the record, the reason *some* women like to date jerks is because they lack self-esteem. The guys they date ALSO lack self esteem, and they treat women badly to made themselves feel superior.

[Lloyd95]

Yikes. Is that a bad thing? Me not wanting ****

Edited and quoted for....ah, no reason at all.

I agree completely. I hate ****

Et tu Ellynn?

[Lloyd95]

Oh, what are those little "****"???

[Junket]

He's theory should be modified to cocky/funny.

[shh!]

Oh, what are those little "****"???

That is a fill-in-the-blank for profanity.