Hi
So i just need some advice thats non bias regarding a disagreement in my relationship. So my partner has a few ex partners that he is pretty good friends with, and i find this really difficult to deal with. I will make it clear its not about trust. I dont think he'd cheat on me. But It just hurts me as I dont like to think about them being together, knowing that they know him in a way that i know him now. It just hurts me. Its not all females. I have no issues with females that are friends. just people he has a past with.
He wants to remain friends with them. he sees them every so often maybe every few weeks. yesterday was with one of them while I am currently away. He knows how i feel about them but he stresses that he has to 'respect them' by remaining friends with them and seeing them. I have tried to just accept this, but it really upsets me.
I think it will always upset me. And may have to be something that i have to learn to accept. But another issue I have is this is the lack of consideration for my feelings. For instance last night (while I was away interstate), he texts me casually saying he just hung out with one of them a few hours that evening with a smiley face knowing exactly how I feel. When i asked where at and how long for (which is all i asked) following mentioning it makes me sad, his response was that he was really annoyed that i didnt ask how they were and that relationships are not supposed to be stressful ect painting me to have done something wrong by being upset.
I think it might have been easier if he was understanding and said something like ' i know youll be upset but i saw (xs name) today , but you have nothing to worrry about it wasnt long or something a bit more sensitive to my feelings.
after talking further he said that he was a good person and he respects them and they respect him and will continue to keep them as friends so its my choice. please can i have some good advise for both of us because we clearly disagree and need an alternative