Hi all, I am having some issues with my relationship and its at the stage now where I think its in the process of dying if it hasn’t already.

A bit of background first. We have been together 14 years now, previous to this I had never even as much as kissed a girl let alone anything else. I suffer social anxiety so have issues talking to the opposite sex. She is very shy, she is 5 years older than me and hasn’t had much luck in the past either, we got set up by mutual friends, I don’t think it was love at first site but I think we were both in the position where beggars can’t be choosers and the rest is history I guess.

We are engaged now and have 3 kids however things are far from rosey. Sex is pretty much non existent, how we had 3 kids I will never know and when it does its a get it over as quickly as possible job, there is no passion, no love. If I am honest I don’t think either of us is really attracted to the other which would explain the lack of sex, we don’t even sleep in the same bed any more. For the past year she has slept with our son, he used to come in during the night so she just decided to stay in with him.

Then we are on to things like family, I am an only child while she has 6 siblings and they are all very close, they look down their nose at me, they think I am not good enough for her, at family events they all stick together like a pack of wolves while I am left myself in the corner and if I dare say anything I am the worst in the world. What makes this worse is she is stuck with them every day, can’t go 1 day without seeing them. We've been engaged 10 years, I think the reason we are not married is her family have talked her out of it, she never mentions getting married any more and when I do the subject is quickly changed.

If I am honest I think the only thing keeping us together is our kids and the fact neither of us think we’d ever be able to get anyone else. Is our relationship savable