How should I play it with my ex??

[Kedmo]

So I was seeing this guy for 4 months and he ended it in early November, it wasn't an ideal relationship as I never let him come to mine or meet my family (due to tensions) - I just kept the relationship to myself. I KNOW I ****ed up here majorly and deeply regret it. He ended it saying he doesn't think we are going to go anywhere if it's like this but he defo wanted to remain friends.

Over the next few weeks we texted now and again and then I went NC for over a month - I deleted all social network apps eyc and stayed off them too. When I 'returned' we gradually started texting again (he initiated) and now it's got to where we are texting for hours most days.

Just after the breakup some of his texts showed he was missing the physical side but he would kind of make a mockery of it by being like 'come over!! 😂😂😂' 'Get in my bed I'll warm you up 😂😂' etc, obv not serious.. But since we have kind of started a friendship fresh after NC he's been more genuine saying Im welcome to join him for cuddles or go over for tea etc . The other night when I was seeing him with a few other people he asked me if I would stay over after (via text the night before) and I said no, he was shocked that I wouldn't. I did change my mind but didn't tell him this until I was back at home when I text saying I wish I was staying over and he told me I should have just mentioned it to him in person on the night.

I'll just stress that I am not going to sleep with him, neither of us are like that and even if he was - he knows that I wouldn't so he isn't just asking me round for sex.

I'll leave it at that for now so I don't have a super long post but feel free to ask more questions

Question is, whenever the next opportunity for me to stay over comes up how should I play it? Should I cuddle/flirt, should I ask him about going out for lunch or something the following week .. Should I be straight and tell him ive changed and sorted out family problems and that can give him a better relationship ? Help!! Haha