left me confused

[lei_faith]

My ex bf and i broke up after 5 yrs in our relationship. He said that im a jelous person and have some character issues. I admit i've been needy and clingy and i am willing to change. He said that he only love me as a friend now and there are no 3rd party involve. he said that he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now because of his work and said its not that i am a burden but he is not into it. he promised that if ever he is ready to start a family and i am still single and available, i'll be the first one that he will propose and want to marry. I told him that i will be left waiting and hanging And its not helping me to move on. He said i could just ignore what he said. And cried when i told him that i will cut all my connections with him including his family. i asked him why is he crying and said we started as friends to bf-gf and it will be a waste if we will end up as strangers. i agreed to his idea because he is already crying . He said that my picture is still on his wallet.

What should I do now? I dont know if I should wait. I still love him.
should i stay as his friend?

[basilandthyme]

What a dickhead move telling you that if he changes his mind, you'll be the first one he calls!

Cut connections with him and his family. If he really wants you to stay around, he'll take you back as his girlfriend. But if he won't do this, then you need the space so that you can start moving on. Expecting you to stand by him as a friend after he broke your heart is just selfish. If he cries, look at him with a heart of stone - after all, you can still be his girlfriend if he wants.

In the meantime, if you agree that you've got issues which are a problem, start working on them. Make yourself stronger and a better partner for your next relationship.