Hello. I got a problem that I can't seem to fix. It's probably a psychological problem but since I can't afford a therapist I am posting it here.
A little background, I'm 22, never had a gf, never asked a girl out, always lived in fear, only now decided to try and change myself.
Anyway I figured out after intense reading, thinking and talking to friends that I have an issue that I call "fear of not knowing the outcome". Basically, if I talk to someone (mostly girls) I've never talked to before I start having fears from not knowing the results of what I'm about to do. My mind sets itself to a mode in which it tries to force a predictable result. and as a result whenever I approach a girl/unknown person I automatically start talking in a manner that seems aggressive from the side and, as I said, it looks like I'm not trying to hook up with the person but to murder him (or her).
Is there any efficient way to fix this problem besides approaching hundreds of girls and making them run away from me? No one has actually ran away from me physically but I could see the look in their face that could only mean "please don't hurt me I'll do anything" or in the more brave way "get the hell away from me creep".
Please help me fix this or at least direct me to a place where I can get answers without paying money