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Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
This may just be me, so I hope others chime in with their thoughts....
However, I don't think you should necessarily tell her all that. If anything, I would just keep it very simple. Maybe say how it stinks how things had to end between you two and that part of you always thought you could have had something. That you'd like to try once more if she is interested. I wouldn't necessarily say you go full out and confess your feelings for her. Maybe she's moved on and no longer feels the same way. Maybe that would only scare her off. Again, though, that may just be me.
As it is, I NORMALLY say your ex is your ex for a reason and it is RARELY a good idea to get back together with an ex. The thing is, unless there is more to the story you didn't share, it kind of sounds like it was really just distance/a lack of ability to get together that ended things. Unless there are further details you chose not to/didn't want to share, it doesn't sound like there was really any major problems, it was just more that you two couldn't be together enough to feel like you could have the relationship you both wanted and deserved.
So, in that case, if the distance and/or lack of time/availability is no longer a problem, then there very well could be a good chance of things working now. On the other hand, though, if there WERE other solid reasons/problems that caused you two to break up that weren't just related to distance/unavailability/etc., then I wouldn't recommend trying again unless those things have changed.
Assuming that it was just circumstantial stuff that caused the end of your relationship.... I would say the answer to your when is honestly just whenever it feels right to you. For now, she told you she's not ready for that right now. So, just respect that and give her some time.
That said, do not make the mistake of letting "some time" become "forever." At some point, she does need to decide if she wants to give it another shot or not. Giving her some time could be okay if it would honestly make you feel better leaving the chance open.... but don't wait around forever. Honestly, I'd sort of guess that if she wanted to give you two another shot, she would rather than keeping you waiting by saying "when I'm ready." But, that doesn't automatically mean my concerns are right. She may just not want to rush things and potentially ruin the chance you two COULD have if you wait until the time feels right to you both.
I'm just saying.... whether or not she claims to want to work towards that, don't wait around forever. Good luck to you.