In love with an old girlfriend/current good friend. Don't know what to do. Help!

[Spazzzz]

I'm a straight male, age 23 and I'm madly in love. This girl I'm in love with is someone I have known for years. We tried to date a while back and I ended it because she had not fully grown up yet. She has now matured in a beautiful young woman mentally and physically. She was already physically beautiful before but that is besides the point. I love her with every atom of my being and soul. We still see each other somewhat frequently and I talk to her often. I dream about her multiple times a week and I also have a deep dark secret that I have kept to myself and only myself for almost 20 years. I want to tell this so badly because I think she would be the only person who understands what I'm going through since she had a similar event happen to her. She told me about hers but I have never divulged mine to her. I do love this girl with everything fiber of my being but I do not know if she feels the same way she did all those years ago. She is going through a hard time atm and I wont nothing more than to be there for her in anyway possible. If anyone has any advice on what i could do, please help!

[pcmaster]

You are in good age to fall in love. At 23 I was more in love than ever in life.

But you told very little in your story. How old is girl now? And why you ate not together - whats stopping you? What are the obstacles? You can tell her your secret once you sure shes ready and deserve to know it.

What reason she gave you to fall in love with her if you are not couple?

[Spazzzz]

This girl is 21 and we are not together because I broke up with her when she was still really immature and a different person back then. The only obstacle really is telling her how I really feel. I think she already deserves to know the secret because I trust her. The reason i love her so much is that she has turned out to be this mature, very creative woman that seems to understand me on a level that even she doesn't know yet because I haven't told her that big secret. She is sweet, kind, and she is intelligent. I know that she is the woman I always wanted her to be but at the time of us dating she wasn't and I'm not a big person on changing people just to suit me. She just happened to turn out into everything amazing for me. I need to tell her my true feelings so that she knows and that I can know how she feels. I'm just not sure how to tell her.

[Jaylen1995]

Just tell her. I honestly think she has feelings with you. If she is still sticking around after everything that has happened and you two talk pretty regularly I would hardy have a doubt in my mind. As for the secret, it's in the past and she has had a similar experience so it's definitely something that you two can bond over and become even closer. It's nothing to be embarrassed about or hesitant to tell her because you are living in the present now. If you love her you will be a open book and she will appreciate that about you even more.