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It can be really hard when the two of you want different things in the future of the relationship. If she hasn't responded or contacted you at all since the fight, I would suggest that you let go...

Don't say all the cliche things like 'she's in a better place now' and don't tell him that you know how he feels - these just make it worse. Let him know that you can't imagine how much this is...

Have you told your wife how you feel? How would you feel if she were to go without you?
I would say think about what you enjoyed about it before and see if you can find that again, especially if...

Have a serious talk with her. Let her know that you don't feel comfortable with her spending a lot of time with ANY man who wants more than a friendship with her and ask her how she would feel if...

It sounds like you still have some feelings for him and that's why you feel that you need closure of some kind. My advice, look for his flaws when you meet so that you can come to a point where you...

I would suggest talking to her about it, but be careful how you do it. You don't want to say things like 'why don't you initiate' or 'why am I the only one who initiates' but go with things in a...

Have you had an honest talk with her about all of this? It doesn't have to be too in depth, just like - 'I feel like we could have something together, but we're going about it wrong. I'm being...

I think that the details of the story don't really matter here. You have feeling for multiple guys and sound pretty lost right now. I think that you need to make the decision that you are not going...

blinki, no worries :-) It did come out a little harsh, but it's all good.

blinki, thank you for your thoughts. I have concluded that I will diminish the flirting and focus on the friendship. He needs to determine what he wants in regards to Mary. He is my friend, always...

Rabbitt - I don't know that I would go that far, but i guess that anything is possible. Only time will tell if there will ever be anything morw than our friendship between us :-)
hello1 - He is...

thank you. That helps a lot.

I would really love to have feed back of any kind here. Because his pertains to a to a friend, I really don't feel that it's a good idea to talk with any of my other friends at this point. Thanks

I would suggest things as simple as spending more time in coffee shop, cafes or book stores so that you aren't doing things out of character for you. That's good that you are not focusing in this in...

I have a few thoughts that may be totally off base, but I'll share them with you in hopes that they may help. My comments come from the fact that I have friends who I have heard similar things from....

I agree with Gratedwasbi, but would add another element to your conversation with your boyfriend. You need to let him know that you understand that this is what he has grown up woth and it won't be...

It all depends on how serious she was about the guy and how deep her feelings were for him. I've often heard that it takes twice the length of the relationship to get over it, but I don't...

I'm going to try to give all the info that I think is pertinent here so that I can get honest feed back. I hope that I haven't droned on and I appreciate your comments.

Here are the facts:
I...