My ex started seeing someone else just under three months after we split (we've been split for 7 months) up and I am still pretty upset about it. Shes from his office and when we went to his office xmas party they were flirting but I thought nothing of it. Now im really worrried that our relationship meant nothing to him as he got with this other girl. But what upsets me the most is his lack of effort to be friends with me, we were friends for 5 years and it doesnt seem like he gives a shit anymore. We have spent time at the same social events as we have some of the same friends but hes all over this new girl in front of me and I find it really insensitive. I really want to ask him if our relationship meant anything to him and if he really did care about me but hes really emotionally reppressd and I dont know if it would help. I feel like I need to hear from him that he did care about me and he cares about me as a friend to fully move on.I dont want him back or anything I just need to know.
I want to be happy for them but instead I feel bitterness and resentment which I really hate about myself. I'm seeing someone casually and I really want to rub my ex's face in it and hurt him which is a side to myself I never new I had. I thought I was a nice person. I reckon it would bother him cos I was friends with this new guy when we were together. You probably think im a ***** but i'm just being honest about my feelings and I hate myself for feeling this way. This new guy i'm with knows all this and we are just having a bit of fun so he is not getting hurt. Sorry this is so long. Anyone know the best way to get over this?