Okay. I understand that going into this situation with either high hopes or a lot of enger/expectations is not going to be healthy. I've deleted any expectations I have and am only hoping to at least ask some of the questions and express some of the concerns I have so that I can move on.
The concept of No Contact is good, however it is to inhibit a person's presence in your life so that you are not constantly reminded of the relationship/good things/what you are missing. If there are unresolved issues then I see it as a better thing to get them out in a calm and healthy manner instead of repressing them. I am not planning on going into detail about the hurt or the regret or any logistics of the relationship. I am, in fact, curious as to why this breakup happened, in his mind, and I also want to be able to walk away after this knowing that After I've greived, I will be able to forgive.
I have tried simply teling friends and family about them, but the closest friends and my mum all agree that if I feel I should have a talk with him, then I really should. I can't WAIT to be able to at least know that I've regained some sort of control in this situation, which I already sort of have. I'm sorry, I suppose defneding my deicision on a board where I was asking for opinions is not what I should be doing. I just need to assure myself that this is the best thing for ME. and It is.