C'mon guys, help me understand...

[hot4u24]

Why do men oogle women?

Why must tv shows geared towards men (which is most), always have t&a shots?

Why can't men understand why women get so upset by these things?

It just seems like men think they should be able to do whatever they want and their women should just keep their mouths shut.

But I really want to understand. I'm in a relationship of 4 years, we're doing fine and we're going to Vegas soon. I just don't want to freak out on him because I'm jealous he's oogling hot chicks...it just seems so silly to get upset over that. I want to understand why men think it's ok.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

I dont understand it either. We can't force them. It has to come from within for them to want to change it for the fact that it bothers you, or you can do it back.

My father would constantly stare at women around my mother and make certain comments about them. It bothered her, but she learned to fire back LOL. One day, a man was walking down the street and she told my father "He looks like he's packing." My father was so shocked, and he actually stopped doing it LOL. I know it bothered him because he is who told me this story. It may not be the "right" thing to do, but hey it got him to stop.

[hot4u24]

Well, I've thought about what you're talking about, but my man, is really good at not doing it so noticeably. He's not the strip club type, either. He thinks it's a waste of time and money.

I think I just don't like watching things on TV (HBO) and seeing boobs and I don't think it should really bother me this much. WHY do I focus on something so trivial?

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Tbh it kinda bothers me as well. It's something to do with being insecure. Maybe you are insecure with something about yourself?

I am insecure about my body. Ever since I had given birth to my daughter, I gained alot of weight, and to top it off, my eating habits. So now if I see my boyfriend checking another girl, whether it be on tv or in real life, I sorta freak out. I know it's my insecurities, but at the same time, I still would not like it whether I was insecure or not.

I guess you can wait for male views on this.

[Cbrider]

Theres glancing, then theres staring. Don't stereotype all men into one category.

[hot4u24]

nice pic cbrider, my bf is a sportbike racer

what about all the boobs on tv? how can i stop freakin' out?

[vashti]

Seriously, I think this is something you just outgrow. Until then, just don't watch TV.

[ALfie]

It's impossible not to notice the opposite sex unless you're blind and deaf. The problem occurs when you stare and make comments. I don't do either and my girl thinks I have eyes for her only. This works in my favor, but I could never stop noticing. Even after years of conditioning.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

Yea I thought the same thing as Vash stated. I think eventually as you get older, you learn to not care and you realize you have no control over it and you just accept it because you realize it isnt really worth the fight. But, I'm still young so I haven't reached there as yet. I hope it happens soon, though I doubt it.

[Sonrisa]

what size are you breasts?

[Cbrider]

nice pic cbrider, my bf is a sportbike racer

what about all the boobs on tv? how can i stop freakin' out?

My passion

[cerulean1]

Would "it's a natural reaction" be a sufficient enough response?

[hot4u24]

Yes, that's a great response. THANKS!

[Sixpacj]

As said by someone else, it is natural.

It is our (both men's and womens') bodies' way of looking for the best mate in order to keep the species alive.

For a man, it's about a woman's replication value - waist-to-hip ration, breasts, face, eyes, nice, shiny hair...

For a woman, it's about the man's survival value - dominance, social status, resources (=wealth), strength...

You're saying you never noticed, for instance at a party, a cool, dominant, strong guy with great fashion sense, sense of humour, who'd be the epicentre of the party? I'm sure you did. But that doesn't mean you jumped him that second, does it now?

Your man is doing the same. His subconscious mind has him analyse a potential mate when he sees one. He cannot help it just as you cannot help noticing attractive men. As long as it is just ogling, it's perfectly ok.

[LoveHurts09]

trust will overcome insecurity

let him dream, so long as he love's u u have nothing to worry about no matter how pretty they are... sex for a guy is different to sex for a girl.