My gf was taking some one elses name when we were having sex ...

[confused !!]

Okay we were completely drunk can came back from a party, we had some common friends with us and i went to my girls place and we were making out and in the middle of making out and sex she was taking name of one of the common friends we have.

She says she did not do it intentionally but what should my reaction be to this ?

[sookie6]

Well...it's possible that the guy crossed her mind for any other reason than sex at that moment.

But I'd be upset too. Maybe take a break for a few days just to make a point?

[confused !!]

And to add to this.. we are in a relation from 4 years..

a few days back she had a dream where the same guy asked her out (in the dream) and she never told me about the dream either..

And in sex she took his name like 10 times..

[Charlie Boy II]

that means she was pretending to have sex with him to get off.

[confused !!]

that means she was pretending to have sex with him to get off.

You mean that she was pretending with me to get rid of me ? I dont think that might be the case but you never know...

What would you do if it happened with yourself ?

[Charlie Boy II]

No, sorry I see English is not your first language, I will try to be clearer.

I mean that while you were having sex she was closing her eyes and imagining that she was actually having sex with your friend. She did this for the purpose of increasing her level of sexual arousal.

[vashti]

"taking someone else's name"

What does that mean? I only see this phrase associated with getting married.

[ShannonMI]

It's either she's imagining having sex with this friend or she's been having sex with this friend of hers on the side and accidently kept repeating his name. Either way, yikes

[SapphireBerry]

Sounds like you got a big problem here buddy
and I think you mean 'saying'. Either she was really shitfaced or you should just leave her if she's gonna fantasize about OTHER guys when
you give her pleasure and love.

[mrszeus]

After 4 years together...
This is a real problem - saying other guy's name while having sex with you is a big NO-NO. Actually, if she's thinking about Javier Bardem or George Clooney ... it would be OK. We all have those fantasies sometimes. But saying your mutual friend's name is a big problem. There's no way around it - she's thinking about him while you're having sex.

Talk with her, but be prepared for the worst. Good luck!

[girl68]

For me that'd be a real hard one to forget. I'm of no help but, I'd be hurt, and confused and no "I'm sorry" would fix it.

[kitkitkitty]

and it wasn't even once.... 10 times is a hell of a lot of excuse and forget. ask her if she was thinking about him while you were having sex.