I genuinely believe that's what she is trying to do.
She knows the space she is in right now has stuffed up our relationship, is impacting on her work, her kid, her life and she knows she has to fix it otherwise it's just going to get worse.
I threw it out there yesterday that she could access my free couselling service my work provides to employees and partners and she came back and said that was a lovely offer and if she can't locate her old cousellor she will definately take me up on the offer.
She realises she needs help, she knows she has an alcohol problem and she has committed to doing something about it. If she doesn't then yes, it's just all excuses. But if she does something about it then it will make a difference to her life and happiness.
And she did literally spiral down when her dog got sick and then she found out it was terminal, she wasn't putting it all on, just doing it as an excuse to break up with me.
I've watched her go down and down, her motivation to everything going, the stress in her face, the tired eyes.
She is suffering at the moment and I honestly believe her cry for some time is to just get on top of this, to get some help, to be in a better place is because she hates being the way she is right now and wants to get better.
Way I look at it is I'm in a win win situation.
If she gets it all sorted out and comes back to me that's fantastic
If she gets it all sorted out and doesn't come back to me, then I'll be happy that she is in a much better space and has tackled her demons
And if she does nothing and just stays in a bad space, I guess I'll realise that's just who she is after all, nothing I could ever have done would have changed that
The hard part for me is just that I love her and miss her so much, I know if I call her she will talk to me, if I text her she will reply, if I go see her she will be pleased to see me, but I can't do any of these things. I can't try and focus or contact her with a view to getting back with her because that's not what she wants or needs right now.
Just have to be there if she needs me and leave it at that.
In the meantime I'll just focus on dealing with my feelings and getting myself out of this sad, unhappy space I'm in and make myself better.