needing help

[Brionp32]

I am so confused right now I am recently divorced and still have feeling for my ex wife while also having feeling for other women all three much younger than me one has no children and the other do have children one has 2 and the other has 3 with a 4th on the way... the one with 4 children i dated before and I really care for her almost to the point to where i am in love with her but im so scared to enter into a commited relationship with her and taking on 4 kids im so confused.... any input would be helpful...

[devonbrown]

First, take a deep breath.
Second, think about each woman in her own right. Don't compare them. That will accomplish nothing.
Third, get over your ex-wife first. If you still have feelings for your ex-wife, you are not going to be able to give yourself into a relationship with anyone.
Fourth, you have to determine for yourself what your feelings are about children and whether you are ready for children in your life. You have to make that decision without anyone in particular in mind. Which means make that decision without dating anyone.

Finally, I would say this - take a break from ALL dating for a while. Just chill out and heal yourself from your divorce. It is the only thing that is fair for you and for any woman you may date.

Good luck.

[Brionp32]

your right I really never gave myself a true chance to get over my ex.... sometimes i fell like i have control issues like i dont want to let go of any of them it stinks that we all live with in 10 -15 miles of eachother and have access to eachother Im 41 and have children that are 20 and 19 so i have raised my kids and taking on 4 young children scares me!!